Couple months ago I met a woman who works at a dispensary I visit about once a week. We hit it off really well. Despite trying to just keep it casual sex, and that only, I ended up developing some feelings for her. She confessed the same to me. I even introduced her to my teenaged daughter, for fucks sake.

I ran into her this evening at a gas station, with another guy, who turns out to be her husband. They’ve been married five years, and have two children together, ages 4 and 2. Finding out they have kids just made me feel disgusting.

So, I told him. He didnt believe me until I described a tattoo in a somewhat intimate place on her body. I had no fucking clue she was married. I think I ruined someone’s marriage. Or at least took part in ruining one.

I feel guilty. I am sorry for what I participated in. Am I a bad person?

  • Dyskolos
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    10 months ago

    You have a bad impulse control, but the bad person is her, not you. And it’s not you who ruined a marriage, it was her. You were just the secret that couldn’t stay hidden.

    A cheater is just pathetic. I’m no religous dogma-ridden dildo, but if you enter a relationship with another human being under the agreement that is monogamous, you should stay true to it out of respect for yourself and for your partner. Leaving someone else under that impression while covertly doing the opposite is plain disgusting. If you like to fuck on the side, tell your SO before. Honesty and respect should be the base of an adult relationship of any kind, especially the romantic one.