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(FYI I just thought this was funny I’m not trying to start a struggle session over noise complaints)

  • Demoncracy@lemmygrad.ml
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    Noise complaints are valid. I’m tired of people here continuously defending people who are a genuine nuisance to people around them.

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      You most definitely should NEVER call the police (especially in a working class neighborhood) over a noise complaint. Yes, it’s anti-social behavior to play music way too loud. But you’re potentially getting someone shot over your discomfort. If you don’t feel safe talking to your neighbor face to face and asking them to turn down the music, you can try contacting the building management or other intermediaries, but definitely not the cops.

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        Over discomfort? Fuck you. I nearly killed myself due to sleep deprivation from people creating near non stop noise 24h every day. Every time such people got approached they threatened violence. Normal people you can communicate with don’t create situations like this to begin with.

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          There is a slight difference between these two scenarios:

          • My neighbour is noisy.
          • My neighbour is noisy and said they’d kill me.

          One warrants calling the Angry Men With Guns number. The other doesn’t. Your situation definitely needed some dudes with weapons intervention. For most people it doesn’t.

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            This is really what I should’ve said originally. In the case that there are other factors, like threats and harm to mental health, calling the police might be the right choice. What I said originally missed some nuance, and was honestly just a bit rude. Thank you for being a voice of reason fidel-salute-big

      • anarchoilluminati [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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        I’m definitely not saying you should call the cops instead, but contacting property management might also not be a good move as you might end up getting someone evicted for breach of lease if there are enough complaints.

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      Fucking he/hims having zero fucking social awareness and serving the worst fucking takes possible. Great, you’re most likely a masc guy and people would fear picking fights with you. Visibly queer people, women, smaller men etc don’t have that fucking privilege. You go in person and if the person takes issue with you, you get violence threats at best, but now they also know who has issue with it and the audacity to bring it up. If you do anything after that, they know it’s you and if they haven’t toned it down after the first time, they’re not the type who will let it slide if you do anything about it. People who do this shit are a menace. If you want to party go to a bar - if you can’t afford it then your neighbours cannot afford to put up with that. Also, fuck the US centrism.

      • Great_Leader_Is_Dead@hexbear.netOP
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        Noise complaints are fine when people are legitimately being disruptive, some people will make rather arbitrary ones over totally reasonable levels of noise, often white people freaking out when non-white people are doing an activity.

        I just thought the Liberal Elmo bit is funny and relevant.

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    FYI I’m not trying to start a struggle session or anything

    *starts struggle session

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    My college-aged neighbors had a big party once on a Thursday night and my roommate, who had to work in the morning, couldn’t sleep since her bedroom wall was like right against their apartment. It was the first time it had happened, and I sort of thought it’s a very difficult situation to try and force them to tone it down while something like that is already in progress, so we ended up waiting until the next day. I was home so at like noon or so when I was sure they were awake I knocked on their door and was just sorta like wtf guys. They apologized, agreed to notify us and the other neighbors if they were throwing another party (especially on a weekday). They never did, at least not a huge loud one like that. I think that’s the way to deal with something like that. Of course if it’s a constant issue and you’ve talked to the neighbors and they really just won’t stop, that’s another story. But this was the first time it had happened and I didn’t want to get into a whole big thing with them while they were likely drunk and the party had likely spiraled out of their control anyway.

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      I’m glad it worked out for you but you have to understand there really are people that will, continually, blast music past midnight on all days of the week when they are your neighbor in an apartment building. That these people exist and are seemingly immune to all good faith attempts to come to an understanding with their neighbors is just an undeniable fact. Ultimately it just ends with you or them moving away but they continue to plague humanity wherever they exist in proximity to it.

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        oh yeah that’s why I said if you have problematic neighbors who are seemingly immune to reason that’s another story. But I think the first step is reaching out and trying to come to an understanding.