• Murvel@lemm.ee
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      5 months ago

      How the fuck could you know, just from a single picture? What, you know she isn’t?

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        5 months ago

        I agree, it feels like most people never looked at pictures of couples before. Even if this is staged or photoshop there is no evidence of her being unhappy.

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      5 months ago

      Now this guy could be the worst person on Earth, but we really don’t know that based on one photo from what is clearly a staged photoshoot (not even a candid shot).

      I understand wanting to make a point, but this whole thread to be honest looks exactly to me like the flipside of people salivating against drag shows or stuff like that: hard stances based on no information. One picture and it’s already certain he is a groomer, she is not happy etc.? Yes, there is a big age difference, but this doesn’t mean anything per se.

      I am honestly very surprised to see people acting with such confidence over something they objectively know so little about.

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        5 months ago

        i’m not sure how much context I need to decide it is inappropriate for 42 year-old to hit on a high schooler whether she is 18 or not.

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          You can of course have your own morale, but there is nothing objective. I cannot personally relate to that either, but I also acknowledge that this is purely cultural and therefore relative and possibly temporary. I find the arguments that by definition label it as wrong or worse grooming to be moralistic and - to some extent - bigoted. Even if directed towards a person that probably is a bigot himself etc.

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            5 months ago

            I’m assuming you mean morals.

            That’s about as far as I’m willing to take this conversation. Advocating for cultural relativism to defend a 42-year-old dating a highschooler and then calling me bigoted for not accepting it…I mean that has to be the bravest take I’ve seen in a long time. Indefensible, but brave.

            By the way, I am an American and this guy lives in my society and culture. Please don’t be an intolerant bigot - apparently that falls under your definition, which is bizarre.

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                  5 months ago

                  You could simply make your argument. If you can’t support your point, than maybe it’s not that clear after all. It seems you assume everything you believe is self-evident.

                  Anyway, I respect your wish to be out, so won’t engage further.

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                    5 months ago

                    Do you think a 42 year old should flirt with a high schooler? I feel like my stance has been pretty clear since the first comment.

                    Don’t bother responding this is truly insane and I am not continuing this conversation.

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      5 months ago

      Yes, and also as the other commenter stated this is a manipulated photo. So honestly there is no evidence of either.

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        5 months ago

        One commentor expressed skepticism with no proof and then a person responded to them with an article about this couple’s engagement that also tells the story about how they met at an FFA event. So yes, there is pretty concrete evidence this is real.