Hey, I was just saying reddit is a shitty place, not that you deserved it. Also I’m not sure what you want me to elaborate on. You can’t expect me to give you specific instructions when you say nothing about yourself.
I would encourage you to be empathetic to others, and try to put yourself in their shoes. If if you’re speaking to other people like you are in this comment, it’s not surprising they don’t want to be around you. (I know you’re suffering and you probably don’t mean it to, but this comment comes across as very combative and hostile, which would put many people off.) I’d recommend you read ‘how to win friends and influence people’, or at least check out an article or video summarizing it.
Also you seem to have a made quite a lot of assumptions about me. I’m not claiming to know any sort of higher truth, not sure where you got that from. I’m unemployed and never had a real career job, I’ve never been in a real romantic relationship, and I’ve spent days straight laying in bed too depressed and anxious to leave the house. I just know that I used to not want to be alive and now I do. I’m making progress very slowly, even when it doesn’t feel like it. And it’s mostly because I’ve put effort into friendships with others, and because I did a lot of introspection and changed how I view myself and the world.
Hey again. Please don’t see this as a negative comment, but I really want to take the time to dig into the message they sent, since you were immediately shown negativity in that other post, and this person genuinely seems to show care. You may be misreading their comment as malicious or inherently negative.
I want to note that they noticed your efforts to escape this torment in their second sentence, and then made a statement (while calling out reddit for their ban-happy approach,) noting that you’re not alone and that countless of us are going through it too. To note: That one commenter from your last post was way out of line from not paying attention to the community your post was in, and how varied all of the communities here are on Lemmy. Unfortunately, sometimes people don’t pay attention when scrolling all, and chime in to conversations where their input does more harm than help… but that’s a bit unavoidable with anything freely accessible online it seems. It’s not the norm, albeit that was super unfortunate that it happened during your first attempt at being vulnerable here.
The next bits may be harder to pick apart if you’re already seeing them as someone being confrontational, but it feels like they are genuinely sharing their ideas that many of us care about individuals outside of social status, and sharing that hobbies have been an alternative for them to find support in communities outside of work. That they are trying to share how they cope with the chasm in their heart.
They then relate to their own experience of seeing themselves as worthless, and the struggle that it takes to escape - noting that they themselves are still in the process. They then share their mindset of looking to a future vision of themselves, and recognizing how much energy and effort it takes to even make the slightest steps forward.
It’s good to vent, and it’s good that you’re actively trying to find help, though misinterpreting their message only stands to hurt the both of you, and I feel that it probably did. As an outside observer, I can see how their message was only meant to help and try to build solidarity, and from your end I can see a trauma response that I know all too well. That there are going to be jerks on all social media, but I can see that they didn’t mean to drag you down or demean your struggle either.
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Hey, I was just saying reddit is a shitty place, not that you deserved it. Also I’m not sure what you want me to elaborate on. You can’t expect me to give you specific instructions when you say nothing about yourself.
I would encourage you to be empathetic to others, and try to put yourself in their shoes. If if you’re speaking to other people like you are in this comment, it’s not surprising they don’t want to be around you. (I know you’re suffering and you probably don’t mean it to, but this comment comes across as very combative and hostile, which would put many people off.) I’d recommend you read ‘how to win friends and influence people’, or at least check out an article or video summarizing it.
Also you seem to have a made quite a lot of assumptions about me. I’m not claiming to know any sort of higher truth, not sure where you got that from. I’m unemployed and never had a real career job, I’ve never been in a real romantic relationship, and I’ve spent days straight laying in bed too depressed and anxious to leave the house. I just know that I used to not want to be alive and now I do. I’m making progress very slowly, even when it doesn’t feel like it. And it’s mostly because I’ve put effort into friendships with others, and because I did a lot of introspection and changed how I view myself and the world.
I appreciate you for the double up on genuine caring responses.
Thanks for trying, in spite of their chaotic spiral.
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Hey again. Please don’t see this as a negative comment, but I really want to take the time to dig into the message they sent, since you were immediately shown negativity in that other post, and this person genuinely seems to show care. You may be misreading their comment as malicious or inherently negative.
I want to note that they noticed your efforts to escape this torment in their second sentence, and then made a statement (while calling out reddit for their ban-happy approach,) noting that you’re not alone and that countless of us are going through it too. To note: That one commenter from your last post was way out of line from not paying attention to the community your post was in, and how varied all of the communities here are on Lemmy. Unfortunately, sometimes people don’t pay attention when scrolling all, and chime in to conversations where their input does more harm than help… but that’s a bit unavoidable with anything freely accessible online it seems. It’s not the norm, albeit that was super unfortunate that it happened during your first attempt at being vulnerable here.
The next bits may be harder to pick apart if you’re already seeing them as someone being confrontational, but it feels like they are genuinely sharing their ideas that many of us care about individuals outside of social status, and sharing that hobbies have been an alternative for them to find support in communities outside of work. That they are trying to share how they cope with the chasm in their heart.
They then relate to their own experience of seeing themselves as worthless, and the struggle that it takes to escape - noting that they themselves are still in the process. They then share their mindset of looking to a future vision of themselves, and recognizing how much energy and effort it takes to even make the slightest steps forward.
It’s good to vent, and it’s good that you’re actively trying to find help, though misinterpreting their message only stands to hurt the both of you, and I feel that it probably did. As an outside observer, I can see how their message was only meant to help and try to build solidarity, and from your end I can see a trauma response that I know all too well. That there are going to be jerks on all social media, but I can see that they didn’t mean to drag you down or demean your struggle either.
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