I might be breaking up with my boyfriend the next time I see him.
I think I put in much more effort. I go to his house because I have my license (he never got his). He doesn’t text me to make sure I get home safe, so I might as well have just left his house and see how long it took him to notice I wasn’t reaching out to him. On that note, I generally am the one to reach out first. Listen to him talk about himself and his interests. Today I listened to him explain about how a sound mixer works because he was so excited about it. Yet the whole card thing. He couldn’t even write me a bloody card after he said he would.
Most recently, he’s been ignoring my text messages if I’ve sent long stretches of messages. He will leave me on read for ages or just not reply, which makes me feel like he doesn’t give a shit about him. And today when I brought it up, he just said, “Do you want me to go back and read all of those from ages ago?” making me feel like I was in the wrong. Not even a “I’ll reply later”. His excuse was that he gets overwhelmed by long stretches of text. HOWEVER, if I ask something about him or his day, he has no trouble talking about that. Selfish prick.
I got so pissed at him today that I gave him an ultimatum over fucking text message. I told him why I was mad and said if he doesn’t step up his game, we are over. We have a musical to go with tickets THAT I GOT HIM FOR HIS BIRTHDAY and then I AM FUCKING DONE! I AM GOING TO SUCCEED IN LIFE AND I AM NOT GOING TO LET ASSHOLE IMMATURE BOYS STOP ME.
Thank you and good night.
DRAMATIC EXIT in style of ANGSTY TEENAGER
Not a teenager but I almost feel like one right now sadly. I shouldn’t have to revert back to such an awful period in my life.
I might go and get my nails done (even though that’s kinda silly and I’ve never done that) and head to the gym to feel better.
That’s not how you treat someone you’re invested in (his behaviour). He comes off as a user type. Getting you to do all the legwork, all the listening, getting you to buy him things…
It’s a shame about the tickets as he doesn’t deserve them. But you can always just dump him now?
Edit: I’m sorry to speak so plainly. But seriously, fill the gap he occupied with something that feeds you or advances your life, he’s ‘there’ but is really just taking from you.
It’s pulling down your self esteem and the amount of time spent traveling to him and thinking about him means you won’t be able to accomplish something else. Like building a real support network, studying for a qualification, meeting a genuinely good guy, or working towards a career change. In your 20s that time is so valuable.
I might be breaking up with my boyfriend the next time I see him.
I think I put in much more effort. I go to his house because I have my license (he never got his). He doesn’t text me to make sure I get home safe, so I might as well have just left his house and see how long it took him to notice I wasn’t reaching out to him. On that note, I generally am the one to reach out first. Listen to him talk about himself and his interests. Today I listened to him explain about how a sound mixer works because he was so excited about it. Yet the whole card thing. He couldn’t even write me a bloody card after he said he would.
Most recently, he’s been ignoring my text messages if I’ve sent long stretches of messages. He will leave me on read for ages or just not reply, which makes me feel like he doesn’t give a shit about him. And today when I brought it up, he just said, “Do you want me to go back and read all of those from ages ago?” making me feel like I was in the wrong. Not even a “I’ll reply later”. His excuse was that he gets overwhelmed by long stretches of text. HOWEVER, if I ask something about him or his day, he has no trouble talking about that. Selfish prick.
I got so pissed at him today that I gave him an ultimatum over fucking text message. I told him why I was mad and said if he doesn’t step up his game, we are over. We have a musical to go with tickets THAT I GOT HIM FOR HIS BIRTHDAY and then I AM FUCKING DONE! I AM GOING TO SUCCEED IN LIFE AND I AM NOT GOING TO LET ASSHOLE IMMATURE BOYS STOP ME.
Thank you and good night.
DRAMATIC EXIT in style of ANGSTY TEENAGER
Not a teenager but I almost feel like one right now sadly. I shouldn’t have to revert back to such an awful period in my life.
I might go and get my nails done (even though that’s kinda silly and I’ve never done that) and head to the gym to feel better.
or go to the musical with a friend
I wish I could but I already gave him the tickets :(
Rookie mistake
Yasss! You go… You deserve better, get it.
Remember, we accept the love we think we deserve.
That’s not how you treat someone you’re invested in (his behaviour). He comes off as a user type. Getting you to do all the legwork, all the listening, getting you to buy him things…
It’s a shame about the tickets as he doesn’t deserve them. But you can always just dump him now?
Edit: I’m sorry to speak so plainly. But seriously, fill the gap he occupied with something that feeds you or advances your life, he’s ‘there’ but is really just taking from you.
It’s pulling down your self esteem and the amount of time spent traveling to him and thinking about him means you won’t be able to accomplish something else. Like building a real support network, studying for a qualification, meeting a genuinely good guy, or working towards a career change. In your 20s that time is so valuable.
Just re-reading this message :)
It’s only now that I realise how much he was taking from me. You’re right - I don’t have to be held back anymore!
Thanks for your support!
No problem. I know it’s hard but keep trying to build a good life for yourself
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7h6EqKJqadU
The guy is an idiot.
He doesn’t seem to know how precious it is to have a loved one speak, to have a loved one share. That sharing is what makes intimacy, is what informs.
People who love you want to know.
I could listen to my loved ones all day. 😻
That said, I come from a background where no one was interested in me so I don’t know how to do it, I had to teach myself ( so I am very imperfect)
So maybe he doesn’t know how.