• EatATaco@lemm.ee
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    4 months ago

    You really didn’t need to admit that you probably don’t like her because she’s a black woman.

    What do you mean? I don’t believe this to be the case, I believe I don’t like her for the same reason I don’t like rogan, and the last I checked he isn’t a black woman. Recognizing that I may have internalized biases that fall in a blind spot of mine is not an admission of anything nor is it something anyone should be shitting on.

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      4 months ago

      But you did say “my wife thinks my comments have a mix of racism and misogyny, which is still maybe true.” How does that paint a good picture in any way?

      But I stand corrected and I admit I had a knee-jerk reaction.

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        4 months ago

        How does that paint a good picture in any way?

        I wasn’t trying to paint a good picture, I was being honest.

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          4 months ago

          Then be honest with yourself for once.

          You say:

          I don’t believe this to be the case,

          How do you reconcile that with “maybe I’m being racist and misogynistic”?

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            I am being honest with myself: I may have internalized biases that I’m not consciously aware of. There’s nothing to reconcile here as these two statements are not mutually exclusive or even contradictory in any way.

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              I understand what you mean now, and I stand corrected. Thanks for clarifying, friend, and sorry for being so quick at judging you.

              You’re right. Even myself may have some internalized misogyny due to the culture of the country I grew up in. It’s a constant battle between what has been shoved into me as a kid vs. what I’ve later learned or discovered.