the colleague in question feels that only her way of doing things is the right one and expects me to adapt to her way of thinking and her logic. This is tiring and burdensome because I have to force me to stop doing things automatically and efficiently, but think how she wants it done and do it her way. I work worse when this happens.

There are several ways to reach the same goal and I always adapt according to the situation at hand. I do what feels logic at the time and work my way.

I already told the charge nurse charge about it but I don’t know if she had a conversation with this coworker and what was said.

The message has to be neutral and polite. What do you think of this?

I feel you believe you are my boss. You are not. Stop telling me how to work. It’s tiring. You have your way of doing things, I’ve got mine, both equally good. Should you have a problem with this, contact the charge or manager. I’m gonna go work now.

  • RainfallSonata@lemmy.world
    19·
    7 months ago

    As a general rule I’d suggest always discussing this with your manager first

    This is the absolute worst possible advice. You’re letting all your coworkers know that you’re going to be adversarial about even the tiniest personal conflict, and that you can’t be trusted to resolve interpersonal issues like an adult.

    • MaxHardwood@lemmy.caEnglish
      61·
      7 months ago

      What’s wrong with that? You’re there to do a job. If somebody is making it difficult to do your job then it’s your manager or HR who is responsible for dealing with the matter. If all the coworkers know you’ll be adversarial about the tiniest personal conflict, they have more motivation to avoid it and remain professional.