• itsnicodegallo@lemm.ee
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    8 months ago

    My assumption was the joke was that OP’s mom does their laundry for them as if is OP was a child, not that women are constrained to doing laundry. It’s not like I didn’t clock the joke. The kernel of truth was the idea that doing those 3 things might be a pain to do, and even my partner complained about having to be careful with certain clothing when I taught her how to do the laundry (which I still primarily do), but it’s good for people to have these skills, regardless of gender. On the flip side, she stopped complaining when she realized how much longer her clothing lasts now.

    Also, my parents divided chores up, and my mom was in charge of the laundry while my dad did the cooking growing up because they each preferred doing those chores. Had nothing to do with gender, but maybe that’s why I didn’t immediately consider the assumption that somebody’s mother does their laundry as sexist. Sometimes, it’s just like that.

    On the topic of you making wild assumptions about another’s thought process (unless you’re a mind reader, and I missed that), I was carrying on to say with my comment that OP should do all that. Not their mother.

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      7 months ago

      Sometimes, it’s just like that.

      Assuming traditional roles to cramp on a sexist joke is sexist. You played a part in how you interacted with it even ignoring it, tagging onto it. Backpeddling just makes it worse. You should probably stop while you’re ahead

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        7 months ago

        Sorry, I haven’t had somebody jump to the worst possible conclusion about what I meant for the sake of being argumentative and flexing their moral superiority in a public space since college, so I’m a little out of practice here.

        Please stop telling me what I think after I corrected you. That’s gaslighting. Additionally, as a nonbinary person, I also don’t appreciate a stranger forcing their paradigm of gender roles onto me like that. Please check yourself.