no mods are actually named is this ok to be here?

  • silent_water [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    this and the chaser shit not getting banned are I think the strongest arguments for defederation. I hope our admins/mods communicate this to blahaj.

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          Maybe I’m misunderstanding, but could someone please explain what’s wrong (/Gen)? It looks like someone posted asking what straight people felt more attracted to (in an odd way, not how I’d phrase that question), and someone gave their answer. Is it that last sentence? Just trying to better understand so I can be a better ally.

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            it’s that they’re reducing trans people to their genitals and saying they’ll date a man if they have the “right” parts but won’t date a woman who doesn’t. it’s objectifying, essentializing, and gross. trans men are men and trans women are women.

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              Is it because they’re saying that they are straight that makes it an issue? “I’m only attracted to women, and that includes pre op men” kind of attitude. I can see why that’s wrong, bit surprised at myself for not thinking of that on my own.

              Or are you saying that having a genital preference in general is wrong? Would he have been wrong if he said he’d only date cis or post op women?

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                it’s that trans people aren’t defined by their genitals and trying to express attraction in terms of genitals is fucked from the start. you can’t see anyone’s genitals until you’re in bed with them – if you don’t want to have sex with someone until they’re post op, that’s fine, but saying you aren’t attracted to people with the wrong genitals reverses cause and effect.

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      11 months ago

      Have the Blahaj admins made any statements about why this is tolerated? I know Hexbear is almost uniquely vigilant but idk why they’d allow it.

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      11 months ago

      What’s ‘authoritarian behaviour’ on a message forum? The only way to do that is by banning people for saying things you don’t like or for any other reason.

      Personally, I think that’s a fine use of authority when it’s censoring reactionaries reactionarying. But then, I’m not a mod with that sort of power threatening to ban people for agreeing that I should use my power to ban others for threatening to use my power to ban them.

      Would it be authoritarian behaviour to ask for or demand a change of rules to say that people shouldn’t be banned for exhibiting authoritarian behaviour? Is this the type of confusion that libs live with on a daily basis? Now I can empathize. The poor fuckers.