i was trying to be tactful, respectful, and understanding by posting this thread for ppl to ask questions abt our beautiful hexbear. i didnt get any questions.

it took 4 hours for Ada, their admin, to respond. she locked the thread shortly after responding her reply above was disheartening, as she seemed willing to work with us previously. equating ableism to a dunk tank post is just vile. and claiming the transphobia in 196 is “a specific event that occurred around a month ago” proves she didnt read any of our concerns. i didnt know abt that event, im sure most of us here dont. our concerns are rooted in the chasers of 196 (non-trans ppl who fetishize trans ppl). someone replied to her saying we were “concern-trolling”. is it that unbelievable that we care abt not having bigotry in the same space as us. i want to grab some of these users by the shoulders, shake them, and yell, “WE ARE BEING GENUINE. WE ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT PROVIDING A SAFE, SUPPORTIVE SPACE FOR ALL PEOPLE, AND YOUR COMMUNITY IS ALIENATING TRANS AND DISABLED PEOPLE!!”

responses were not very positive of us

they think this is a bit! lol, lmao even! this whole thing has me jokerfication

this chain of comments particularly upset me “its a troll”. my pronouns are right next to my name, and “it” isnt one of them (even tho thats 100% a valid pronoun to prefer)

this one had me fully jokerfied

and the cherry on top warranted its own post https://hexbear.net/post/373453

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      Y’know, blahaj really isn’t doing shit to convince me it’s not just a cesspit comprised near-entirely of the gold star/three no’s gay community, especially not with their Vaush infection; and that’s enough to make me want them defederated

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          Gold star lesbians ostracise other lesbians who’ve been with men before; want people to believe they just came out of the womb lesbian. Three no’s, which i have more familiarity with, are the gays who have “No Blacks, no fats, no fems” either at the top or bottom of their grindr profiles. Usually white, moneyed up twinks, though before I pitched out my own profiles and became a bitter queer hermit, I was seeing that mindset metastasize to non-whites.

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              Holy shit, it gets worse! So the one ‘gold star’ I had the immense displeasure and misfortune of knowing either didn’t know what she was talking about, or had a whole lot worse personality traits that would have seen her clipped from the circle anywho. Lovely.

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                not everyone knows about it. my partner was calling a couple of zoomer trans kids that are staying with us gold stars without knowledge of how shitty it is (for context, we’re both trans).

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                It is definitely used by most people to mean that they’ve never been with a man. But of course, transphobes don’t see trans women as women, so… 🤢

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      I feel like such a fogey. I’m assuming Vaush is some sort of internet personality? I get search hits for a YouTuber.

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        yeah, youtuber - “anarcho-Bidenist” with an extremely toxic fanbase and infamous for being a pedo, a chaser, and racist. straight up defends saying the n-word. we normally don’t allow discussion of his stuff because giving him attention or brain space is a mistake but it’s relevant in the context of the 196 community

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          straight up defends saying the n-word.

          Also chased a Black youtuber(Professor Flowers) off the platform by slandering her as a genocide apologist, and utterly refuses to differentiate between white nationalism, regressive Black nationalism(the kind of horseshit that say, the Black Hebrew Israelites peddle), and actually revolutionary Black nationalism.

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                from my understanding it was all online no? Not that it makes redeemable, but I don’t think he’s actually physically harassed anyone in person from what we know (wouldn’t put it past him of course)

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          Eesh. It’s so bizarre to me the online personalities, that people will then claim to be followers of, and even attach a cutesy name to. It’s like saying, “Yeah, I’m Savillain. Yeah, I’m a Cosbologist.”

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            it’s the commoditization of identity - corporate brands wanted people to identify with them so there was a mass push towards that, especially with advertising. with social media, “influencers” began capitalizing on parasocial relationships with their fandom as well as cultivating brand identity. the post-structuralist critiques are fairly interesting on this front.

      • I noticed that post was on a thread in the chapotraphouse comm, but not visible through hexbear at all, just very weird, I can only imagine how hard it would have been dunked on if it was visible before the whole thread got locked for vaushposting outside of the dunk tank