This is an appreciation post for comrades who are men or masculine-aligned.

CARCOSA [they/them]@hexbear.net to menby@hexbear.netEnglish · 2 years ago

I support you in your fight against toxic masculinity, and in your exploration and expression of an authentic masculinity.

I reject second-wave feminism blaming each individual man/masc-aligned person for the consequences of patriarchy, thus obscuring its systemic nature while denying us effective weapons to combat it.

I’m proud of you for the work you’ve already done on yourselves and in your communities. Each and every one of you has what it takes to overcome reactionary impulses, to love yourselves and your comrades, and to be a part of our inevitable global communism.

I salute you, masc-aligned comrades.
I salute you, men of the left.

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A space for masculine folks to talk about living under patriarchy.

Detoxing masculinity since 1990!

You don’t get points for feminism, feminism is expected.

Guidelines:

Questions over blame
Humility over pride
Wisdom over dogma
Actions over image

Rules (expansions on the guidelines):

Mistakes should be learning experiences when possible.
- Do not attack comrades displaying vulnerability for what they acknowledge are mistakes.
- If you see good-faith behavior that’s toxic, do your best to explain why it’s toxic.
- If you don’t have the energy to engage, report and move on.
- This includes past mistakes. If you’ve overcome extreme reactionary behavior, we’d love to know how.
- A widened range of acceptable discussion means a greater need for sensitivity and patience for your comrades.
- Examples:
  - “This is reactionary. Here’s why.”
  - “I know that {reality}, but I feel like {toxicity}”
  - “I don’t understand why this is reactionary, but it feels like it {spoilered details}”
You are not entitled to the emotional labor of others.
- Constantly info-dumping and letting us sort through your psyche is not healthy for any of us.
- If you feel a criticism of you is unfair, do not lash out.
- If you can’t engage self-critically, delete your post.
- If you don’t know how to phrase why it’s unfair, say so.
No singular masculine ideal.
- This includes promoting gender-neutral traits like “courage” or “integrity” as “manly”.
- Suggestions for an individual to replace a toxic ideal is fine.
- Don’t reinforce the idea the fulfillment requires masculinity.
- This also includes tendency struggle-sessions.
No lifestyle content.
- Post the picture of your new grill in !food (feminine people like grills too smh my head).
- Post the picture of the fish you caught in !sports (feminine people like fish too smdh my damn head).
- At best, stuff like this is off-topic. At worst, it’s reinforcing genders norms…
- If you’re not trying to be seen as masculine for your lifestyle content, it’s irrelevant to this comm. If you are trying to be seen as masculine, let’s have a discussion about why these things are seen as masculine.

Resources:

What is toxic masculinity?

*The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks

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