cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2766019
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Without getting into too much detail…I have been abused by women most of my life. I finally ended an abusive marriage with a female narcissist. I have never really struggled with this issue up until recently.
I am finding that I am often dismissed and not believed when I try to discuss this issue, even to therapists and my lawyer (all whom have also been female). I have almost no resources or support. There are no men’s groups for this issue in my area. Often online I will see people mock people like myself. I have even had people on socialist sites dismiss situations like mine. It is beyond frustrating.
I understand how it is and I know that patriarchy and misogyny are still huge issues, but I’ve noticed myself feeling very resentful towards a lot of women recently and sometimes veer into misogynistic thoughts.
I don’t want to be like this, but I am struggling.
Any advice on what I can do to control these thoughts and retrain my brain?
I credit this situation growing up as what saved me from the incel route my childhood friend took. He was one of the early “men’s rights” types in the late 1990s/early 2000s that metastasized into the modern incel thing. He and I had a reasonably similar upbringing. Same age, same social circles, same nerdy hobbies, same hometown, same cultural conditioning, same church, same school classes, etc. But I had a lot of age-appropriate interaction with girls and women in my immediate and extended family, and he didn’t. There were a lot of times in high school when I had to quietly tell him to knock it off with some new creepy behaviour he was showing towards girls.