I’ve been on an unintentional break from hexbear over the past 10 months since the redesign broke it on my phone and school started. But I have a new phone now, so what’s been happening? Are we finally blocked by everyone except lemmygrad? Any new struggle sessions? Fill me in!

        • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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          Not well friend. I’m still drinking less, it’s not totally dictating my life, but this breakup has been rough. Been with her since I was 19 and I’m 23 now. I relapsed on Friday, but plan on going to a group with my sobriety coach on Monday so that’ll be good

          • corgiwithalaptop [any, love/loves]@hexbear.net
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            Don’t beat yourself up, relapse is nothing to be ashamed about, just part of the process. Wishing you well, and proud of you! Hope Monday is beneficial Care-Comrade

            Feel free to hit me up if you ever need!

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            What corgs said, just keep committing willpower to putting down the bottle and you’ll steadily go longer periods without drinking until you reach your goal. You’ve already come so far from where you were and put in so much effort, so don’t even think for one minute that any stumbles are anything other than speedbumps on your journey towards sobriety.

            Just remember anytime you get knocked on your ass it’s always okay to take a minute to sit there and process things before getting back up and trooping on.

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              I appreciate it a lot. Sometimes it feels like I’m going to be stuck like this forever, but it’s really helpful remembering that this doesn’t have to be forever. I really appreciate the support

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      Same…not the first time a user whose posts I’ve enjoyed has gotten banned and probably won’t be the last. I guess part of it is that I don’t really post anything of substance so I’m unlikely to come into conflict with even the most combative posters, and I somehow manage to miss most of the struggle sessions even though I spend a good amount of time on Hexbear (not that I’d participate in them, but I don’t even see them)

      • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]@hexbear.net
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        The first year or so of ChapoChat was leagues worse than this. We kinda had our own Great Purge for a while, and then the site culture stabilized.

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          I’ve actually been here since basically the beginning (besides the Discord lifeboat), so I do remember the struggle-sesh-a-day era. Glad we embraced TC69 thought and purged all the transphobes (among other things).

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      Also a few months ago he was removed from all his mod positions for sharing dox info about a user and then doubling down on it not being doxxing, so it was kinda a matter of time