• PhlubbaDubba@lemm.ee
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    9 days ago

    That’s a lot of text trying to justify not just calling people what they tell you they want to be called.

    Also, “settler colonialism” just taking us back to that whole “recognizing queer rights is just white people shit” angle, you just fucking troyed yourself. “In your soul.” “That’s racist.” “In your body?” “That’s gay?” “That’s homophobic.” “That’s Black.” “That’s Racist!”

    Talking about it erasing blackness also flying dangerously close to that boundary, and “femicide” looks suspiciously like all the TERF Island rumblings about “erasing womanhood”.

    If someone goes out of their way to specifically tell you how they want to be referred to, just fucking do that instead of being a little crying bitch baby about it. It’s some letters, you can ask them for a pronunciation if it’s really that hard to sight read.

    Every second you spend on trying to justify intentionally putting down how someone wants to be referred to is infinitely more effort than was ever necessary for anything, and continuing to try and justify this childish tantrum throwing is exponentially more effort than that.

    Just respect how people want you to refer to them. Just do that. It’s not nearly as hard as you’re trying to excuse it as. Just be a decent person already.

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      That’s a lot of text trying to justify not just calling people what they tell you they want to be called.

      You evidently cannot read, as I explicitly said, in the first line, that I have no problem calling someone latinx if they tell me that is what they want to be called.

      Anyway, I am not actually promulgating the arguments you are critiquing.

      I am saying that the term latinx is contentious, amongst hispanic LGBTQ people, amongst academics, as well as amongst the reactionaries you seem to want to label me as.

      As the term is contentious, and I am not a hispanic LGBTQ person, I am not going to tell people they cannot label themselves as latinx, nor am I going to insist use of that term instead of others.

      I am bewildered as to how you have decided that I am a crying little baby bitch who is throwing a childish temper tantrum.

      I am not a hispanic LGBTQ person, my only relevant experience or credential or whatever is interacting in my relatively basic level of Spanish with many people, most for the purpose of attempting to help them get housing or some other kind of assistance.

      I used to design the online and offline forms used for intake and other various functions, and I am basing what I’ve said on my experience and the many experiences of the employees using said forms, as well as myself when I did outreach.

      My personal opinion is twofold:

      1. Latinx basically either doesn’t work as a word or is confusing following Spanish’s own rules.

      2. I have interacted with (directly and by proxy via constantly receiving feedback from the intake crew and other employees at the nonprofit) hundreds of Spanish only speakers, and they are generally confused by the word latinx, likely due to part 1.

      Again, since I apparently have to make this clear, if someone tells me they identify as latinx, I have no problem with this.

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        8 days ago

        You’re the one who compared it to neo-pronouns as if expecting people to respect either if presented with them in a social context is ridiculous.

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          Its the closest analogy I can come up with, though it is not linguistically perfect.

          The closeness of the analogy is that neo pronouns and latinx are primarily used by terminally online people, rarely used in most people’s day to day real world experience, that the terms are viewed by many as linguistically awkward, confusing and/or cringey.

          I don’t know what to tell you if you think that talking to an average Spanish only speaker and using the term latinx, or an average English speaker using neo-pronouns, that the average person is in the real world is not going to find this confusing and strange.

          They are thus both examples of terms that seem normal/acceptable/understandable only to a person who is terminally online.

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      9 days ago

      Oof, this comment has a lot of correct content individually, but as a response, undoes all your previous points.

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        Nah, what I’ve said stands, this is fundamentally about the right to have your own identity be respected, and how queer folks have had to fight tooth and nail just to even get so much as singular they/them accepted in the anglosphere.

        There is literally no good reason for there to be a fight about this. You can learn new pronunciation, you can ask for reminders, you can do whatever, but everyone coming at me about “but da X is dum do!” is siding with “but I don’t waaaaaaaaaaana!” at the most benign, and “if I see someone using that X I’ll burn them alive myself!” at the far end, and yes I have personally seen that sentiment expressed, and not even in the present age of reddit collapse, this was shit from before the pandemic.

        Just because society moved on to different means of communication doesn’t mean we don’t have lessons to learn from why we had to move on and what highly toxic cultural forces were behind pushing that move, lest we have this conversation about why the e was bad and stupid and dumb 10 years from now.

        Not to mention the wildly patronizing reflex of some D&I folks to try and say “actually bigotry can be ok if it’s the ‘global south’™ because being disgusted by bigotry even when ‘the good people’™ do it is colonialism or something.”

        As if those values aren’t literally a direct product of missionary colonialism.

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      if someone wants me to specifically refer to them a latinx, ill comply. I dont see it getting any traction outside of this niche as an acceptable genderneutral form of declination. Latine fits better, since a lot more spanisch paradigms end on -e, from a linguistical standpoint. -x, i.e. /ks/ or /eks/ is very unusual according to Spanisch Phonology. And the vast majority of speakers will use the phonetically easier version, if they wish to change their speech patterns at all.