Hi fellow relationship anarchists, how are you all doing?
I noticed there are really only link posts in this community, so thought I’d say hi and ask how did you come to R.A and how it’s going for you?
I think I found it on reddit linking to a post 😂 it’s going fine, most of my relationships tend to be friends with benefits or monogamous tho. Usually people are fine with/interested in the ideas of it, but still want monogamy, and if I like them enough then I just roll with it cause it’s not like I have time for many relationships anyways
Oh cool!
Oh, that’s interesting! I am not sure I could ever do monogamy, but I am glad it works out for you 🙂. Yeah, time seems ever increasingly tight for most folks nowadays, sadly.
how did you come to R.A.
I dont label myself as an relationship anarchist but its definitely the main inspiration for my non monogamy. I see it as an extension / practical implementation of poltical anarchism.
I started that path only 2 years ago so I am still working through many things and many of my relationships are still pretty normative and still in the boxes we put them in when we met.
As the mod of [email protected] I mostly used this community to post texts I read. I am really happy for any other contribution though!
Fair enough, I definitely understand not wanting to label yourself as anything, that’s very anarchist to me, lol.
Sounds like it is a lot to work through and sounds like it’s slow going but good for you?
Yeah, that makes sense, apologies if it came across as criticism. Thank you!
I did not feel critized at all, but even if it was critique / feedback it would be more than welcome.
Yes its slow and sometimes I kinda put it in the backburner but I think in the long term I will achieve what I want, which is relationships that more based on our affinity and mutual desires and not on normative categories.
If you want to share: How is it going for you?
Oh, thank you, that’s refreshing :::)
Ah, yeah, that makes sense, life and needs of ourself and/or others can get in the way, but glad you’re still heading towards something and hope it all works out smoothly for you.
Pretty well, it’s not always easy due to trauma and other things but me, my partners and friends have come a long way and it’s mostly better, much more enjoyable than it used to be with all the automatic expectations and norms that were forced on me or I forced on others.
It’s much nicer when we can all communicate, be honest and not feel any pressure to conform or do things we don’t want to.
