They’re basically full incels who claim women are shallow and hate men below 6 foot…

and dudes ‘dick sizing’ posting selfies of their faces to each other “no I’m more handsome than you” pure incel weirdo shit

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    I am not a short king but I am a straight cis Asian guy, and this at least somewhat true and I did not know it until I did serious work on myself and actually pinpointed the behaviors of mine that were clearly my insecurity and desperation to be liked seeping out (speaking in generalities to myself and others, name-dropping stuff I thought would make me cool, reacting by matching my tone and enthusiasm to that of the person speaking to me rather than giving a more organic response that’s less of a departure from what I felt deep down.)

    A lot of these short guys, like Asian incels, bond over insecure feelings and observations they independently arrived at due to them being the first level thoughts of any guy who’s unlucky romantically due to having a stereotypically negative trait. They believe these feelings and observations are them getting a peek at an unlocked well of truth, rather than equally resigned quitters validating one another’s ideas borne out of self loathing and the need to have a mentally placative answer for indecipherable and unpredictable social dynamics.

    Just like how, when an Asian incels sees an Asian guy being confident with girls they auto-assume that guy was adopted by whites/had Americanized parents/is gay, then tell each other that as if it’s a shared universal rule, bitter short guys will see some short guy who dates women taller and hotter than him and tell each other that the guy must be rich/famous/large penised/ex military.

    These kinds of online social groups/subreddits are literally anti-achievement and self-growth. The more their shared lore is outspun to try to comprehensively and objectively catalog the hard and fast rules of a nebulous and volatile reality, the more detached from normalcy they become and the further they are away from having dating success or even natural human interactions.

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      As a fellow Asian who’s tried dating in the West, I definitely agree that the Asian incel movement is a terrible response to the gendered racism which pervades many Westoid societies. Working on yourself and making meaningful changes is always the better option though I feel like this is the dating equivalent of a racist job market where an Asian person has to be twice as good as a mid white guy just to be considered on the same level.

      Maybe it’s a lot different now than when I was last “on the market” many years ago.

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        I’ll be honest. The dating market in western countries looks super hard if you’re Asian or Indian.

        I’ve had some white women tell me the only time they’ve been attracted to “said ethnic group” is when the guy was “mixed with white”

        I think our dating market is super euro centric unfortunately.

        Doesn’t man asian/Indian dudes can’t find love. We’ve all seen it happen. It definitely looks harder for you guys though, at least initially