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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sizzlerino on 2023-07-02 10:38:44+00:00.

Me (F28) and my boyfriend (M30) have been a couple for 5 years and living together for 4 years. We have separate finances and I’m more financially stable.

We live in a capital in Europe where most people in our age doesn’t own a car. It’s very easy to go everywhere by public transportation and parking is usually expensive. We are lucky to have very affordable parking where we live and bought a cheap car in 2020 to be able to travel in a COVID friendly way during the pandemic. One of our mutual friends once asked if he could borrow the car when he was moving and we said yes

Last summer my grandfather died and my parents decided to gift me and my brother quite a lot (for us) of money from their inheritance. They also gifted me his car (my brother got as much money as the car is worth) since they know I really hated the car we used to have. They sent me a legal document for the car that says it’s mine and that my boyfriend doesn’t own any part of it. But it was meant for both of us. We split the costs evenly and my boyfriend uses it way more than me. My boyfriend and I sold the old car and split the money

Recently my boyfriend told me a friend of his was going to borrow the car to practice driving for his drivers test with my boyfriend as an instructor. I said absolutely not. I don’t want to risk anything with an inexperienced driver and his friend could easily afford going to a driver’s school. BF said I was ridiculous and that we had let another friend borrow our old car and I therefore told him that the car is MINE. BF got angry and told me I’m an AH

So AITA?

  • DavrosRising@lemmy.fmhy.mlEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I would say NTA. But I’m not surprised he was upset. If he participated in selling the old car with the expectation that the car you inherited was taking the place of the old car and would be mutually owned, it was because there wasn’t clear communication.

    Regardless, he doesn’t get to make unilateral decisions with mutually owned property. So even if he thought the car was mutually owned, he can’t just make decisions that disregard your opinions.