I’m shamelessly stealing that person idea, because I think it’s an interesting question.
Personally I’m into porn involving some forms of abuse, often it’s rape but it could also be just spanking or gaslight. Of course I’m not into that in real life. I know CNC is a thing, same with consensual SM and I could be into trying those one day, but I don’t see myself doing that with my husband anytime soon, and it’s different when it’s planned in advance, which is not always the case in the story presented in porn.
99% of it . … I want to have a great time and want my partner to have a great time. I also don’t want to bang relatives or plumbers or realtors or any myriad of professionals. So yeah porn stays in the land of fantasy and I can be inspired but mostly leave it there