There’s no freedom in having to do something but you’re also not free to choose your wants.

Maybe it’s better to just live and let life happen instead of thinking about what could’ve been. What ever happened is the only thing that could’ve happened.

  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    19
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    2 months ago

    I see you haven’t met me. I will walk to the refridgerator, grab a bottle of lemonaide, grab a single sock, and grab a hot wheels car. Then I’ll go back to my seat with these items, and ask nobody at all “Wait…why the hell did I grab these things?”

    I don’t do things because I want to, or need to, or even because it makes any logical sense.

    I just do things. I have no idea what I’m doing half the time.

    Hey, are you going to eat that ghost?

    • TranquilTurbulence
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      2 months ago

      I was just thinking that there is a third option. You certainly can do things you don’t need to or even d want to.

      An extreme example would be all the various kinds of mental issues. Even phobias count. You don’t need to be afraid of balloons, nor do you want to. However, someone suffering from such a phobia just can’t help themselves.

      • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        2
        arrow-down
        2
        ·
        2 months ago

        Either you have to or you want to.

        Having a phobia is not something people chose to have, so no freedom there. If a person is afraid of spiders they then want to avoid them at all costs. That aligns with the statement in the title.

        • TranquilTurbulence
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          2
          ·
          edit-2
          2 months ago

          Depends on the way you define “have to”. If we take the loosest possible definition, as long as literally anything makes you do it, you have to do it. Could be another human, laws of physics or even your own brain doing stuff you don’t want it to do. In that case, I agree with you. However, people usually aren’t that loosey-goosey with their definitions.

          Oh, just realized, this definition also encompasses the case where you want to do stuff. It’s all in the same category at this point. People do stuff because they have to.

          • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            2
            arrow-down
            3
            ·
            2 months ago

            Well I don’t believe in free will so in my view what ever you do is because you couldn’t have done otherwise. In that sense you “have to” do everything that you do because doing something else would mean breaking free from the laws of physics and deterministic universe.

            Whay ever makes someone do the thing in the first place is what would make them do it again, and again, and again no matter how many times they rewind the clock and try again. You’d need to be able to change the order of the universe to break free from the causal chain.

    • ProdigalFrog@slrpnk.net
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      2 months ago

      That description of your process reminds me of this video on consciousness, and how the creator describes how he has no inner monolog, or even conscious thought of some of his actions, and instead it’s like a black box that he can query. Is your experience similar to that?

    • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      2 months ago

      That doesn’t imply any kind of freedom either. It’s what you wanted to do wether consciously or not.

      • FooBarrington@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        2 months ago

        Sounds like you’re categorically defining everything someone does without being forced as “want”. But who is the “you” that wanted to do it if you’re not conscious of that want? Do I breathe while in a coma because I want to? Do I stop breathing because I want to? Or does my low-level biology force me in those cases?

        • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          2
          arrow-down
          1
          ·
          2 months ago

          Feeling you can and actually being able to do so are different thing.

          I’m not saying your tastes can’t change; I didn’t use to like the taste of coffee but now I do. I however didn’t choose to start liking it. My taste simply evolved over time. Now I couldn’t choose to not like it.

          What do you feel like you have the ability to change your preference about then?

          • Ezergill@lemm.ee
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            5
            ·
            2 months ago

            I mean, you chose to taste it again when you knew you didn’t like the taste. That’s how acquired tastes work, you start liking something after repeated exposure.

            • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              1
              ·
              edit-2
              2 months ago

              Yeah, I wanted to be the kind of person that drinks coffee like everyone else around me back then. I didn’t choose that want. That desire was imposed on me from the outside.

              • Ezergill@lemm.ee
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                3
                ·
                2 months ago

                It still was your choice, people regularly go against the societal norms and desires imposed from the outside. Like, I never started smoking, although both of my parents and a lot of my peers did.

                • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  ·
                  2 months ago

                  No, I disagree. I didn’t choose not to start smoking. I simply never developed the desire to start. It’s not something I decided against my natural preferences.

                  It’s besides the point anyway. Even if I could choose to do or not do something it would still be about what I want which aligns with the title of the post.

                  You can’t do something you don’t want unless someone makes you do it. Even if you do something like go to the gym despite not wanting there’s a greater want behind it that’s pushing you to do it. In this case getting healthy and fit. This means you do want to go to the gym, you just don’t like it.

          • idiomaddict@lemmy.world
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            2
            ·
            2 months ago

            I decided not to like gummy bears anymore because I was eating too much of them, and since then they always taste flat. I’ve got Debby Downer powers like Britta.

            • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              1
              arrow-down
              1
              ·
              2 months ago

              So you realized it’s not good for you and you wanted to change the habit. That perfectly aligns with the title of the post.

              • idiomaddict@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                1
                ·
                2 months ago

                I knew it wasn’t good for me to start, I just used to enjoy them through the guilt until I made the conscious decision not to like them.

                • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  1
                  arrow-down
                  1
                  ·
                  2 months ago

                  You didn’t just choose to not like them, though. That’s not how human psychology works.

    • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      edit-2
      2 months ago

      The argument in the title is essentially an argument against free will. Involuntary actions are outside of your control and are thus for evidence of free will. Stubbing your toe is not something you chose to do. It’s a thing that happened to you.

      • I agree. I do appreciate the spirit of OP’s comment, that we are agents. I observe a lot of people who blame everything but themselves for their circumstances, and take responsibility for nothing.

        However, sometimes you get the meteorite, and sometimes the meteorite gets you; we’re none of us 100% in control of our fates.

    • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      2
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      2 months ago

      People don’t do stuff they don’t want to to because they couldn’t think of anything better to do. If you decide to just stay in and lay in bed because you couldn’t think of anything better to do then laying in bed is what you preferred to do above everything else, otherwise you’d be doing something else.

      • Dwemthy (he/him)@lemdro.id
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        2
        ·
        2 months ago

        I’ve seen people staple their arms because they couldn’t think of anything better to do. You can have an impulse that you don’t actually want to do but which you follow through on

        • ContrarianTrail@lemm.eeOP
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          1
          arrow-down
          2
          ·
          2 months ago

          It’s what they wanted to do at that time then. Why else would they do it? I mean really, think about it. Why would you choose to do something like that other than it’s what you felt like doing at the time.

          I have a bad habit of biting my nails. It would be correct to say that it’s something I do despite not wanting to but that wouldn’t exactly be true because when I catch myself about to do it and I resists, it’s hard because I really want to do it despite knowing I shouldn’t.

          It’s more like the person I want to be being in conflict with the person I actually am.