My theory is that they are living in a world of hierarchies and apologizing is admitting a mistake, which takes them down a few levels on the hierarchy of power/popularity.
My theory is that they are living in a world of hierarchies and apologizing is admitting a mistake, which takes them down a few levels on the hierarchy of power/popularity.
I’m talking about those chronically unable to apologize, and that don’t seem able to learn here.
Some people have trouble separating actions and character, so admitting to committing a mistake becomes emotionally as admitting they’re bad persons, and that threatens their sense of identity.
The emotional connection to their wrongdoing isn’t guilt, but shame for who they are.
It’s connected to low self esteem, in the worst cases to narcissism.