I grew up in the 1980s and 1990s and i had a ton of homophobic and transphobic brainworms i had to work through in spite of being bi and trans myself. Are there people who just don’t say anything out loud anymore because they don’t want to be shamed for it? Yeah, absolutely. Lots of cishet people aren’t fully honest with me and just play nice because they don’t want to cause a scene. But there’s also lots and lots of people who have genuinely become better, more accepting people and that’s honestly not all that surprising. All queerphobias are learned responses. There’s nothing genuine about them. People have been trained to reflexively feel the hate and disgust because that was the socially expected thing to do. If they fully realize that, it’s easy to discard these fears once they lose their purpose of being a mandatory part of somebody’s gender performance. Without that, there is simply no reason to be queerphobic anymore.
I grew up in the 1980s and 1990s and i had a ton of homophobic and transphobic brainworms i had to work through in spite of being bi and trans myself. Are there people who just don’t say anything out loud anymore because they don’t want to be shamed for it? Yeah, absolutely. Lots of cishet people aren’t fully honest with me and just play nice because they don’t want to cause a scene. But there’s also lots and lots of people who have genuinely become better, more accepting people and that’s honestly not all that surprising. All queerphobias are learned responses. There’s nothing genuine about them. People have been trained to reflexively feel the hate and disgust because that was the socially expected thing to do. If they fully realize that, it’s easy to discard these fears once they lose their purpose of being a mandatory part of somebody’s gender performance. Without that, there is simply no reason to be queerphobic anymore.