Physically they need a face I enjoy seeing. Not a super high bar to pass I feel. Decent teeth, basic hygiene, they really just need to not look or smell like a ghoul. There’s going to be a sliding scale of interest beyond that, but physical is more of a disqualifier than a qualifier for me.

Now the tougher physical one for my American ladies: she has to be lighter/thinner than me. I’m currently in less than ideal shape, but the proper fatties are immediately out. Most women will be shorter to significantly shorter than me, so this bar shouldn’t be a high one to overcome, yet somehow it is.

Personality/past is going to be the highest hurdles honestly. She needs to have some sort of passion, an interest in advancing in some aspect of her life (and this cannot be a purely consumptive goal like watch X movies, go to X many places, ride X type of horse, own X type of house in Y location, etc). I’m not a fan of someone who is content to accomplish nothing in their life and stagnate at the purely average. I’d really prefer their interests somewhat coincide with mine, but as long as they’re capable of coexisting I wouldn’t mind.

This will go hand-in-hand with the second qualifier, she needs a fairly long time horizon outlook and a high locus of control. I’m not a fan of someone who thinks they cannot heavily influence their future and drifts from thing to thing with no thought of what they want in 5, 10, 20 or 40 years down the line and what they might need to get there. They don’t need it mapped out entirely, just milestones and general targets of what they want and actual attempts to reach those goals.

Going to need them to also be at maximum a moderate, and definitely not partisan. That’s going to be way too many fights over stupid shit from talking heads and is going to cause schisms.

Yes I know it’s quite the tall order of requirements. I’m currently not in a condition the women I’m seeking deserve to be dating, and have stayed out of the dating pool until I improve myself, mostly in the physical environment.

I’m not too picky about physical appearance, but I’d prefer someone who’s taller than me. Good hygiene is also quite important.

As for personality, a willingness to cuddle is a huge plus! And it would also be quite nice if they were open to playing video games or partake in some other nerdy interests with me. Beyond that, I’d also prefer if they had a somewhat low libido since my own libido isn’t that high.

And when it comes to gender, I don’t really have a preference.

I suppose it’d be fair to say that there is no ideal partner for me.

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I have two things I consider:

• Height. They can’t be too tall!

I am 5ft/152cm tall.

If I am with someone taller than like, 5.6ft/168cm I will end up looking like a child next to them. They could pick me up like fucking King Kong, it freaks me out. Any form of casual physical intimacy would be obnoxious because I’d have to crane my neck back and stand on my tippies to reach them.

So close to my height or shorter is the ideal!

• Personality.

I think someone kind and thoughtful is best, with a gentle personality. Someone like say, Charles Ingalls (from the little house on the prairie show, not the real man).

I’m married to someone who meets my requirements.

I’m above average in both measurements, so preferably someone on the smaller side that I can easily cuddle or carry. Breast size doesn’t really matter to me, too big can be too much. Preferably a cute face; on average the shorter they are, the cuter I find them.

Personality wise, a cuddly reasonable absolute nerd. Mostly anime/computer tech/gaming nerd. Extra Bonus points for being comfortable with loli content/hentai while understanding it’s purely fictional.

I guess my overall goal is to be able to comfortably laze around cuddling my SO while enjoying nerd stuff.

• Woman (optional)

I’d absolutely have to find them attractive. I know people can look past physical attributes if their partner’s personality is great, and that’s fine, I just don’t feel like I can do that. To me, romance (and sex, of course) is a pretty big part of a relationship, and if I can’t look at her and go “wow she’s cute” (or something along those lines), then it just isn’t going to work for me.

She should also need to have her own identity. Not gender identity, fuck that, I mean she’s her own person with her own goals and opinions etc. Someone who I can actually talk to and joke around and hang out with, someone who fits in with my friend group, not just with me.

And if I had to be shallow and pick a physical attribute or two: slim body, and breast shape >>>>> breast size. They can be the size of space hoppers or look like two skittles on an ironing board, as long as the shape is good then I’m happy!