It’s like your looking at pictures of a kid you vaguely recognize but can even remember them. “Where do I know that kid from??”

  • IonAddis@lemmy.world
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    12 小时前

    Everyone else thinks I was cute. Which I take to mean everyone is being polite

    I don’t know if this helps, but someone who loves the adult-you will absolutely look at your baby photos through the same filter as they look at you now. They’ll see those photos as a little peek into the past of someone they already like. So you could genuinely be ugly as hell as a kid–but if they like you now, that’s not gonna matter to them, you’ll be cute.

    This doesn’t have such a large age-gap, but someone I knew had a crush on me looked at my employee photo (that I fucking HATED) and decided they liked my “little smirk”. Why did they love the photo I hated? Because they had an emotional connection to me (on their side at least) anyhow.

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      Your sentiments are appreciated and we need more reminders like this out in the world in these dark times.

      Yeah, family and loved ones will always have that bias because people are more than their physical appearance. Thoughts, attitudes, habits, feelings, kin. You love someone for all of those reasons and more.

      But if I saw a doppelgänger child I’d be lying right to the parents faces to remain cordial.

      YMMV. Highly subjective and all