That has just dawned on me…That’s incorrect. The majority of the time, neurovanilla’s are completely clueless Space Waves
That just made me realise…
…no they don’tNeurovanilla’s haven’t the faintest clue most of the time
NTs when you say you wish social rules were either explained more explicitly or else your worth as a human being wasn’t tied to correctly following them:
Sorry that’s literally impossible. Also its not that bad, you just need to try harder. I have no idea why so many of you kill yourselves.
NTs after a few months of living in another country where the rules are different:
Depression, panic attacks, sometimes even full on mental breakdowns.
NTs following the rules, lmao.
I’m too strict 👀“you just always have to be right, don’t you?”
I just took what you said seriously. When do I take it at face value and when do I try to invent a new meaning for what you said?
Yesterday I explained to my 6 year old that communication is not just hearing the words people said and acting like that’s all they meant. I explained that when he speaks, I try to think about what made him say that and what he might have meant, and when people make this extra little effort to understand it’s like they’re giving you a gift of understanding. I was also able to help him recognize that when people use your words against you, it feels bad.
I’m prepared to have to repeat this several more times as per usual, but he did understand and agree. Taking people’s words at face value without thinking about the person isn’t good communication. Maybe it’s harder for you, or maybe you just stopped caring because enough NTs didn’t give you the gift of understanding. I’m just here to say that words at face value isn’t the be-all of connecting with others.
My reaction to this is now, “no, I want everyone to be right.”
As someone who was begging to read the rules to probably the most un-written game of them all, this book was very helpful.
