Im in the exact same page as you. Seeing a mod remove comments because people weren’t capitalizing another users pronouns was the straw that broke my back the first time I yeeted Lemmy, the next time I came back to lemmy there was a whole thing about u/vegan banning people for saying that feeding a vegan diet to a carnivore pet was animal abuse. I’d LIKE lemmy to be usable if you dont have a tolerance for extremism, but I’m not holding my breath