I have been going to therapy off and on for years and whenever I bring up my desire to date and my difficulties with it I have gotten back to just work on myself and online I have seen “if you aren’t happy alone you won’t be happy in a relationship”. I have major depression and have had it for years. Am I supposed to just hope it goes away? Wait until my entire life has passed?
I’ve always found that advice to be bizarre given relationships are generally pretty low on Maslow’s hierarchy (depending on the version)
Charitably it comes from a need to give easy platitudes. Uncharitably it’s a projection of a subconscious disgust at the idea of dating someone with mental health issues.