I’ve been waiting for this for so long. It’s no secret there’s mostly men on lemmy and most things gravitate towards them. At this time, I would not recommend lemmy to any of my friends who are women. I don’t think lemmy really appeals to women or has much to offer them. I hesitate to share perspectives as a woman because I know there’s a big chance it isn’t going to be taken well and won’t be welcome.
NSFW women sex stuff
I was downvoted before for saying I didn’t enjoy penetration. I said it hurts without lube but even with it, it doesn’t feel enjoyable and that vibrators are the only thing that feels good. I talked to another woman in that thread who enjoyed penetration and she got upvoted but I got downvoted and we weren’t even arguing, just talking about sex as a woman (it hurts for me, it does not hurt for her, turns out we had more in common beyond that). I’ve never been judged by other women for this (friends or partners), men who are my partners usually have a problem with it and I’ve had men tell me they don’t want me to have/use sex toys at all. If I talked about this on TwoX, others would either be in a similar boat or offer support. I miss being able to talk to other women online about this stuff.
Upvotes and downvotes should never exist in the internet.
I am not here to read my own opinion, I am here to read other’s opinion, preferably different to mine, so I can enrich myself with their opinion and them with mine. When we introduce “upvotes” and “downvotes” it’s easier to be in an echo chamber.
Anyway it’s important that women have their own space!
I’ve disabled showing of downvotes in Jerboa. Also disabled upvotes, but re-enabled it for a system that I ended up not using. Lemmy without vote counters feels amazing!
I’ve been waiting for this for so long. It’s no secret there’s mostly men on lemmy and most things gravitate towards them. At this time, I would not recommend lemmy to any of my friends who are women. I don’t think lemmy really appeals to women or has much to offer them. I hesitate to share perspectives as a woman because I know there’s a big chance it isn’t going to be taken well and won’t be welcome.
NSFW women sex stuff
I was downvoted before for saying I didn’t enjoy penetration. I said it hurts without lube but even with it, it doesn’t feel enjoyable and that vibrators are the only thing that feels good. I talked to another woman in that thread who enjoyed penetration and she got upvoted but I got downvoted and we weren’t even arguing, just talking about sex as a woman (it hurts for me, it does not hurt for her, turns out we had more in common beyond that). I’ve never been judged by other women for this (friends or partners), men who are my partners usually have a problem with it and I’ve had men tell me they don’t want me to have/use sex toys at all. If I talked about this on TwoX, others would either be in a similar boat or offer support. I miss being able to talk to other women online about this stuff.
I’m really sorry things like these happen to you. I wish things could be different. The only thing I’m able to do is my part.
Thanks, I appreciate it 🙂
Sorry to hear 😔
Have you heard of [email protected] ?
I just heard about it today, I’m hoping it takes off.
Upvotes and downvotes should never exist in the internet.
I am not here to read my own opinion, I am here to read other’s opinion, preferably different to mine, so I can enrich myself with their opinion and them with mine. When we introduce “upvotes” and “downvotes” it’s easier to be in an echo chamber.
Anyway it’s important that women have their own space!
If I remember correctly, downvotes were supposed to filter out spam and other unwanted content, now it is a disagree button.
@[email protected]
ok ok I admit defeat. Downvotes were not meant to be a “dislike” button.
A lot of good ideas end up having terrible use.
To be fair, their use was also debated
I’ve disabled showing of downvotes in Jerboa. Also disabled upvotes, but re-enabled it for a system that I ended up not using. Lemmy without vote counters feels amazing!