If you were against arranged marriage but were pressured into getting married to someone you knew little about, how did it turn out?

  • jezus_christus@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    So I played football with a tunesian dude which was married off for sure, I assume it was a green card thing. He never actually said it, but he “met her on holiday in the village of his grandparents” and she is multiple times a year for over a month back in Tunisia with their kids. I asked him once if he doesn’t miss his children and he laughed and said “young children only need their mother with them my friend” We also never got invited to his place or actually saw her. I live in Belgium btw.

      • Riven@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        9 months ago

        That idea isn’t uncommon around the world either. My Exs father was basically that when they were growing up, he was Mexican-spaniard. Dude would visit for a month a year then fuck off to another country to work. Once he was able to help his wife and kids emigrate he fucked off back to his ranch and left the family in the new country. He believed it was the woman’s job to raise the kids and the man was the provider. Problem is, he was barely a provider. My ex mil carried that family.