That’s… not at all what I was saying. You can prefer any pronouns, for any reason, and that’s valid. Using “they” when you have not made reasonable effort to ascertain another’s pronouns is misgendering. If a person’s preferred pronouns are they/them that is also valid and those are the pronouns you should use.
To reword my previous comment “(without making reasonable effort to ascertain someone’s preference) they is not ideal, but until you know better it will suffice.”
If “they” is only accidentally correct I don’t think that’s exactly any better because the intention was the same.
I had written it in many more words and then shortened it later, thinking I was making it more clear, but apparently making it less clear. The blame is on me for that.
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That doesn’t make it better holy shit. For some of us, they is ideal. That’s the point.
That’s… not at all what I was saying. You can prefer any pronouns, for any reason, and that’s valid. Using “they” when you have not made reasonable effort to ascertain another’s pronouns is misgendering. If a person’s preferred pronouns are they/them that is also valid and those are the pronouns you should use.
To reword my previous comment “(without making reasonable effort to ascertain someone’s preference) they is not ideal, but until you know better it will suffice.”
If “they” is only accidentally correct I don’t think that’s exactly any better because the intention was the same.
I had written it in many more words and then shortened it later, thinking I was making it more clear, but apparently making it less clear. The blame is on me for that.