It doesn’t matter whether or not you can understand why they value this rule they have told you it is important to them
that’s all fine and dandy but again, “never use that (non-slur) word for a thing none of us actually believe in” is way more of an imposition on the rest of us than participating in norms at a specific place and time.
Where did I say none of us actually believe in it? Plenty of people do, especially more traditional folks. When you say that word to someone you’re putting SERIOUS bad medicine on them and they’re entirely within their rights to be offended. If you go around with this attitude you’ll find it hard to make friends with people from other cultures.
that’s all fine and dandy but again, “never use that (non-slur) word for a thing none of us actually believe in” is way more of an imposition on the rest of us than participating in norms at a specific place and time.
Where did I say none of us actually believe in it? Plenty of people do, especially more traditional folks. When you say that word to someone you’re putting SERIOUS bad medicine on them and they’re entirely within their rights to be offended. If you go around with this attitude you’ll find it hard to make friends with people from other cultures.