it’s very hard for me

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Seek a therapist who practices Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.

If it’s actually affecting your health, I’d suggest talking with a doctor about it

“Idle hands are the devil’s workshop”

Get rid of free time. Commit yourself to some project that involves both the body and mind. Bicycling or running + listening to useful audiobooks might be one.

You are probably not horny every time you fap. That means you fap/watch porn to feel better or distract yourself from something.

Figure out why you fap/consume porn when you are not horny. Deal with that problem.

Go cold turkey with porn/fapping. There will be ups and downs but after about 3 weeks you will be ok. If you can last 2-3 months you will feel 100 times better (like gettig a hard on whne you see a (not even a very hot) girl on a street). After that you can go back to normal but only fap when you are horny. Dont look at porn, it will mess you up.

Have you tried not pooping for three days?

Like any other habit or addiction, being mindful helps. I have quit smoking cigarettes and alcohol (uh, multiple times) by trying to stop myself when I start or am thinking about it by reminding myself of why I don’t want to do it. With cigarettes and alcohol, one might think “wow, I really want to go to the store and buy some”. It’s very hard to consume either one if you don’t have any, though, so I try to stop myself right then by remembering how many times before I’ve thought that I didn’t want to do either one. Generally if I can just stop myself from leaving to go get some, I can get over the urge. Then repeat as needed.

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Keep your mind focused at doing (anything you like that is not porn) and keep doing it 24/7. Recognize your “impulses” and when you need to chill. Avoid anything that “sexually provokes” you in any way (watching moves with women moaning and/or with big bouncy breasts will definitely not help you here). Eat/drink (something sweet/strong) when the “itch” kicks in.

If all goes wrong… then seek help.

Well, for now I recommend you to filter out all NSFW here on Lemmy LMAO, I see porn here even when I’m not looking for it.

Three pieces:

1. Empty your bladders as soon as they fill up. Full bladders make you horny even when you aren’t
2. Be around other people
3. You are certainly not going to be able to fck the girl in the porn. Cause the girl’s just a 2D grid of pixels. It’s your primitive brain not being able to tell the difference. Override your primitive brain with your rational brain

Every time you want to fap, do 10 pushups.

Can’t do 10 pushups, do what you can then revert to an easier version and do 10 more (example, let’s say you can do 1 or 2, then go and do knee pushups and do 10 more).

Exercise releases chemicals and if you keep doing exercise you can get a pump, Arnold described it feeling as good as cumming - https://youtu.be/-xZQ0YZ7ls4

Dealing with the same thing. Seems like sheer willpower is the only way out though having an existential crisis helps a bit too. I was able to clearly visualize what my life is going to look like in 15 years if I don’t change my habits and that cleared up my mind a bit. Watching porn is fun and all but dying alone after having spent a significant part of your life doing just that isn’t.

1. Reflect often on the problems that result from it.

2. Find other engaging things to do with your time, e.g. rigorous exercise is often satisfying.

3. Try breathing meditation, not primarily for any “spiritual” benefits, but to occupy your mind (since you can do it everywhere) and to achieve some peace.

4. Try mindfulness meditation to reduce friction with life.

Around 35yo should change and your libido will fall. It is an addiction planned to fail by itself.