• Fixbeat@lemmy.ml
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    6 months ago

    At least they are thoughtful gifts relevant to you. I get gift cards or socks that took zero effort.

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      6 months ago

      Family talking: “what does Garry like these days?”

      Family talking: “hmm. I don’t really know.”

      Family talking: “he kind of goes to work a bit but he doesn’t do much else.”

      Family talking: “silent thinking

      Family talking: “Alcohol?”

      Family talking: “yes! That’s what Garry does, i mean that’s what Garry is, I mean that’s WHO Garry is. An alcoholic. Garry the alcoholic.”

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      6 months ago

      Personally I like gift cards and socks/underwear, I need those articles of clothing and the gift cards save me spending my money on those places I likely would’ve went to anyway

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        My (step?)mother in law is really hard to shop for. I always feel like I have no idea what to get her. She doesn’t want for anything, she’s pretty frugal/non-materialistic, doesn’t really have any hobbies, is kinda boring, etc.

        I do my best but always wonder if she’s venting online like you (she isn’t for sure).

        If people buy you shitty gifts and say that, give them a better wishlist or clear guidance.

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          I have literally told them things I would be happy with… I’ve been very specific about some things too. For example, I tend to be hard on jeans so anytime gift giving comes up I will tell people that I will be happy with new jeans and specify my size.

          I know I tend towards nonmaterialistic and people seem to hate buying practical gifts but that’s honestly what I would prefer. I have also said on multiple occasions that if they really can’t find anything, I will be extremely happy with a simple bottle of vodka or anything penguin related… Yet somehow I never get useless penguin trinkets.

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          6 months ago

          Comfort items. Nice slippers, snuggie, robe etc…

          Anything that makes lounging on the couch is fair game.

          High quality bedding can be appropriate depending on relationship level.

          Pro tip, work your gift idea into a conversation with them by complaining about your similar item. They will tell you if they love/hate their thing.

          Bonus tip, once they start complaining about their thing take note of what they don’t like about it and solve their problems.

          Listening to complaints is the real core of thoughtful gift giving.