Hello Polyam Comrades 
Hopefully your week is starting off well! Sorry for not posting over the holidays, my brain wasn’t functional enough to do it, but here we are back at it in the new year. To help foster a safe and inclusive space for polaymory discussion, we wanted to provide weekly discussion topics! The goal is that we share our stories and our experiences, listen to each other, provide safe space for each other, and learn from each other. Please ask questions and provide answers in good faith only, let’s be the wonderful communicators I know we all are.
This week’s discussion topic is: Ask That Burning Question You Have!
Maybe you’re new to polyamory and are unsure about something and need some clarifications, maybe you’ve seen polyamory in a movie and are wondering if that’s how it really is, maybe you’re a polyam pro but need a suggestion for a better calendar app than google calendar to manage your various polycule schedules (this is me someone please help me I’m overwhelmed by my google calendar right now I’ve got like pod’s pods on there and it’s not helpful anymore).
Please feel free to use this thread to suggest future discussion topics as well, ideas you have to foster a better community, or feedback you have about the community.
Reading through ‘Polysecure’ and having a lot of profound realizations about myself and my relationships. The author explains attachment theory and uses it to explain general approaches and attitudes to mature romantic relationships. Now I’m finally getting to the part on polyamory. Key takeaways have been validating the need for connection and the conception of ‘attachment needs’. It has also given me confidence in my perceptions of challenges in my current relationship. I think long-term I would not like to be in a polyamorous relationship, but the experience has been very helpful in thinking through my difficulties and mentality around attachment and romantic relationships.
I think everyone, regardless of relationship style, should read this book. It’s really got a lot of valuable insights about relationships in it