• scarilog@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Tbf it’s been one day and OP thinks they got ghosted, when in reality there might be tons of different reasons why he hasn’t got a reply yet

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      10 months ago

      Yeah, but just before new years? They were wanting new years plans, and they probably made some.

          • Sentau@discuss.tchncs.de
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            10 months ago

            Why though¿? I understand preferring to take the lead but why do men actually hate it when women take the lead¿?

            • Thief_of_Crows@sh.itjust.works
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              10 months ago

              The same reason cave men didn’t try to eat the gazelle that was lying right next to their cave for 2 days. All the ones who did eat it, died. When things feel too easy, it sets off alarms that suggest it might not be as good as it seems. Men don’t actually hate it, it just tends to set off their inborn defenses. If you want to take the lead on a man, try to show him that he’s done something to earn your affection. Probably most applicable to strangers.

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            10 months ago

            Those men are terrible, and ruin things for the rest of us.

            My now-wife sent the first message, and I’m so glad she did. It was super rare even close to a decade ago.