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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • NTA. I think you are in the clear.

    You are a kid yourself. You are 17. When I was your age I would not have done anything different.

    One thing you can do for extra credit is talk to your step dad and mom. Tell them: listen, I know you don’t want me to add complex family issues in front my little sister. But I think if she is clear about all of this from young age, I think everything will be easier and better long term.

    Tell them that you do appreciate your step dad, and understand that he contributes financially and emotionally with your upbringing. (If he actually does) You are grateful for his role, but you still love your dad and it’s important to you to keep that distinction clear. Thank them for being understanding of that.

    At 17, it’s difficult to view world from perspective of others. But try to think about how your step dad and mom see the situation.

    Also remember: you don’t have to win an argument. That’s not the goal.

    The goal is to be happy with yourself long term. I often find that doing the right thing makes me feel good about myself. Even if that means I walk away from a fight, argument or spend extra effort worrying about others emotions. You don’t need to worry yourself about what your parents did right or wrong. That’s on them.

    Yours is to do the best you can for yourself. Love those who love you back and know that no one who loves you is perfect. We are all humans with faults and mistakes in our history. Not worrying about those things will allow you to enjoy your life more.

    Source: 42 years on this planet.

    Have fun, and don’t use your limited time in this planet holding grudges or hanging onto any negative emotions!