So I have this “core memory” mentality to parenting. When my kid does something really annoying (like want to go to the public bathroom just because I’m going) I remind myself that I don’t want this to be the one thing this month/ year he remembers when he’s 20.

This is my silly contribution: 70% of 30 is equal to 30% of 70. This applies to other numbers and can be really helpful when doing percentages in your head. 15% of 77 is equal to 77% of 15.

Thanks for the insight. Truth is I still struggle with his passing. He had a great sense of humor and we knew we could make the most dark/twisted jokes and comments to one another. I kept thinking about him when I was dropping the subtle hanging comments to this other dude. I saw it as honoring what i loved best about the deceased but maybe I’m just having a hard time coping. Thanks again.

He was more than a good pal to me… wasn’t to the guy I was talking to. I was honoring my deceased friend who had the absolute best sense of humor, Often dark.

I relate to this so well. Touched bases with someone from high school just yesterday. Havent spoken to him in 15 years. We were talking about a good friend of both of ours who hung himself. I kept dropping comments about him “hanging around” and how he “hung out” here or there, he “knew the ropes”… but the guy never acknowledged that I was trying to make light of a heavy situation… Or maybe he knew and wasn’t on the same page. 😂

Thanks, I’ll check it out.

I have the opposite issue. I type exactly what I want to say, get distracted, then never send it. “Why didn’t you reply to me?” “I did. Oh… I never hit send…”