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Cake day: August 2nd, 2023

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  • In my opinion, no, you are not the asshole. But neither is your wife or her brother. Though it may not seem to your wife and/or your brother-in-law that you are being kind since it is very subjective, you have every right to not want to take on responsibility that you never signed up for. Did you marry your wife or your wife’s family? This may depend on how much was discussed and/or planned beforehand, and viewpoints will vary. I’m supposing you didn’t marry your wife with her brother in tow, so it’s not surprising that you take issue with caring of him. Dealing with family can be difficult especially when it’s not your family. One thing to consider is how you would deal with the situation if he was your brother and not hers. And you may have a completely different approach to the situation. I think the most important thing is to have an open conversation about your feelings about the situation with your wife to decide how things proceed. This may be something where he needs the support for some time, but an end date should be in order. Good luck.