I agree with your take on passing and that the warped self perception is harmful.

What I was getting at with the toxic positivity: Some ppl will literally call everything that moves in a gnc way an egg (“wdym you identify as cis? But you cross dress and do things which do not correspond with your agab. You must be an egg” which itself perpetuates harmful stereotypes. Another example would be all those “are you trans test” which just ask you stereotypical question and will categorize in the gender binary). Will lie about appearances and voice when asked for genuine feedback, as well as display overly aggresive confidence in their ignorance of others insecurities/anxiety/issues (e.g. “why don’t you come out at work, I was perfectly fine,just put on a wig; you just need a little push.”) Was not talking about being denied the ability to promote self hatred

and if my comment seemed to direct hate at others I am sorry about that, since it wasn’t my intention to do so.