• crapwittyname@lemm.ee
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      10 months ago

      My kid was the last one in their school year to get a smartphone. He was bullied for not having a smartphone. He used to ask me for one several times a day and I stuck to what I’d said, he’ll get one on his birthday. I still feel it was far too early. He was 10 when he got it.

      • Dra
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        10 months ago

        You did the right thing. If it was the 1900s and everyone else was to give their child cigarettes, they might get bullied for having no cigarettes, but you know what is best and you stuck with it

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          10 months ago

          Also you are not getting bullied because you don’t have cigarettes or smartphones, but because you lack self confidence and because you are perceived as social weak (your friends and random bystanders would not come to your help).

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            10 months ago

            No, you are getting bullied because humans beings are morons who will jump to bully whoever is perceived as different. Do not blame the victim, for fuck sake.

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                10 months ago

                Well good fucking job evolution, you managed to screw over autistic people who have empathy while psychopaths who know how to fake it get to abuse everyone

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                  10 months ago

                  I mean, they wouldn’t even survive if we were still living under the survival of the fittest stuff, which our society doesn’t allow most of the time 🤔

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            10 months ago

            You have completely misunderstood this and are trying to overlay some bizarre Andrew Tate-esque psychobabble to explain your misunderstanding.

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                10 months ago

                You have drawn an incorrect conclusion about the specifics of the social mechanics and cited it as “from your experience” after presenting it as fact.

                You could simply have a poor grasp of social mechanics, or be misinformed, misunderstood the original premise but ultimately it doesn’t really matter.

                You implied lack of conformity and participation is not a cause of bullying - it absolutely is, its probably the original cause of most bullying.

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                  10 months ago

                  A lot of words to say that you disagree, without actually explaining why bullies are not targeting kids who are at social disadvantage.

    • Steak@lemmy.ca
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      10 months ago

      Nope. You can’t expect me to raise my own child How dare you!

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      10 months ago

      Just like the UK bill wanting an ID for porn sites. And, in the EU, Youtube is wanting my ID for age verification to follow EU law. Isn’t a much less authoritarian solution just to use blocklists, or even mandate sites send an unencrypted flag with content that is “adult” and browsers or routers can choose to deal with that or not.

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        10 months ago

        Like if you don’t want you child to use a smartphone - just don’t buy one for them.

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          10 months ago

          They say EU law, and it’s only if I want to watch age restricted videos. But Czech Republic

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      10 months ago

      Something, something, something, and then BREXIT comes to mind. That worked out well.

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      10 months ago

      In Sweden, it was mandatory for kindergartens to have “digital learning tools” up until a year ago. I wonder who came up with that brilliant idea.

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        10 months ago

        What I mean is that it might not be so simple as not giving them access to it if other institutions persist in forcing it on them.

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      10 months ago

      Like… join a protest demanding a smartphone-free childhood for everybody?