• Dubious_Fart@lemmy.ml
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    11 months ago

    Mine just called accused me of being gay via hearty use of homophobic slurs, because only women and gays cry, and i wasnt no woman.

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      11 months ago

      That’s lame. Real men aren’t afraid to cry, whether straight or otherwise.

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      11 months ago

      I had subtly internalized that idea from growing up in a small, narrow-minded town. I don’t remember it explicitly being said to mez but probably it has. Don’t think it came from my parents though. Definitely not from my mom, maybe from my dad.

      My point is that despite the subtlety of it all (as far as I can remember), I had a hard time getting over this internalised toxic masculinity. I can only imagine if it was much more explicit.

      But you are you! You define your own masculinity. And as paradoxal as it may seem, being comfortable in your own masculinity, however you define it, is the most manly thing you can do.

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      11 months ago

      Maybe it’s because i hang around the queer parts of the Internet so much but this story just feels incomplete to me without an “I showed him, I’m a woman now” at the end :)

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      11 months ago

      Everyone said I was disadvantaged by having a single parent, but I didn’t have to live through any of that shit except for 1 year my mother married (and then left the guy because he was an ass)

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          11 months ago

          Ehhhhhhhh… I wouldn’t go that far. I had a not-terrible one, who only showed bad sides when I was in my 20s. lol