Mine just called accused me of being gay via hearty use of homophobic slurs, because only women and gays cry, and i wasnt no woman.
That’s lame. Real men aren’t afraid to cry, whether straight or otherwise.
That hurt to read, I’m so sorry
Maybe it’s because i hang around the queer parts of the Internet so much but this story just feels incomplete to me without an “I showed him, I’m a woman now” at the end :)
I had subtly internalized that idea from growing up in a small, narrow-minded town. I don’t remember it explicitly being said to mez but probably it has. Don’t think it came from my parents though. Definitely not from my mom, maybe from my dad.
My point is that despite the subtlety of it all (as far as I can remember), I had a hard time getting over this internalised toxic masculinity. I can only imagine if it was much more explicit.
But you are you! You define your own masculinity. And as paradoxal as it may seem, being comfortable in your own masculinity, however you define it, is the most manly thing you can do.
Everyone said I was disadvantaged by having a single parent, but I didn’t have to live through any of that shit except for 1 year my mother married (and then left the guy because he was an ass)
One good parents better than 30 shitty ones, mate, and sounds lik you had a good one.
Ehhhhhhhh… I wouldn’t go that far. I had a not-terrible one, who only showed bad sides when I was in my 20s. lol
Haha ok this meme was good.
We know it’s not all of you. Your generation also fought for civil rights, explored space, invented jogging I think.
We have shitheels in our generation too. And I fear they’ll become more and more prominent as we get older. I hope we’re able to dampen their greed and intolerance.
I’m pretty sure boomers didn’t invent running.
Minor correction, boomers weren’t the ones fighting for civil rights. Boomers would have been in kindergarten during the civil rights movement.
It’s not them. It’s a small number of the 0.1% who have screwed this generation.
And that’s why you always leave a note!
Oh my god, that guy’s arm just came off!
So…they did give us something to cry about.
They played the long game.
They didn’t , same class did it same class is doing it. Fuck this stupid fake generation shit
Both are true. Boomers as a bloc have consistently voted for cutting social programs that they benefited from in favor of lower taxes, moreso than preceding and succeeding generations. The wealthy indeed shape the bills and reap the benefits, but it wouldn’t happen without boomer support.
Well they weren’t lying
It can be four things.
Too real for me irl
That’s a plot twist
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As psychologists always say do not blame you parents, they just did what they could
You clearly have no idea about psychology
What’s the point of blaming anybody? Does it helps you to feel better?
The point of blaming anybody isn’t really about “blaming” them but understanding the cause of your personal trauma and how you reacted to it. You shouldn’t hold on to your trauma by only blaming someone and stopping your personal growth there. You should work to heal it and better yourself. It is hard to start healing if you don’t know the cause. You have to start somewhere.
A small example from me is I wouldn’t buy tissue to blow my nose because “I don’t need it. I can use some hard ass brown paper towels and hurt my nose and irritate my skin.” I don’t mind buying the soft lotion plus tissue for my family and loved ones, but not myself. Why? I couldn’t understand why I felt this way. I just kind of always felt that way. That I’m not good enough and didn’t want to bother with nicer things for myself because “I’ll make do.” Is this from upbringing? Parents? Siblings? Friends? Self imposed rules because I interpreted other people’s actions and thought I wasn’t good enough. Finding the cause does help people feel better because they can have a better understanding of what to focus on.
So yes it does help me feel better. I now have a thing of tissues at work I use when my nose gets runny instead of making do with rough as paper towels. 😁
That is what I think about. I don’t mean they did the best they could. I’m saying that due to their mentality and personal psychology there were no way for them to act another way. If we turn back time they’d do the same thing as it is what they saw from their personal background. I don’t mean we should understand them and forgive, I just think that we could take the responsibility for our life and get over that trauma and frustration to live further without the feeling that our happiness depends on what our parents did to us in the past. You can have another opinion that’s okay, I just express mine.
I think we both are saying to same thing in different ways. I was just saying blaming someone or finding the source helps to start the healing. It is 100% up to the individual to take responsibility on how they treat people. My older brother has “daddy” issues and tends to blame not getting enough approval for being a mess up. I still blame my brother for not bettering himself since then. He’s in his 40s.
Every generation has trauma they pass down in some way, both known and unknown ways. Most parents do their best and we are all human. We’re bound to make mistakes. It is up to the individual to learn from them though.
Without blame, you never get accountability. We know what that world looks like.
You need a source for your weird comment, otherwise you don’t sound that smart, Debbie.
Any psychologists that always says “do not blame your parents” is covering up for abusers.
I’ll start crying about reposts if this goes on
I’m chronically online and just saw this, so it’s not worth complaining about yet.
Blaming parents for not doing a global eco-communism
*eco-socialism
Thats fair, a dictatorship of the proletariat would be needed to address climate change
Dictatorship of the proletariat you described is just one version of socialism. Not the definition of latter.
Yes, and it is the one that has historically worked.
Instead of groiping about problems all the time, we should also be thankful for all the great things they invented, like microchips and food abundance.
Are those things supposed to make up for the mass extinction event they caused?
I think their accomplishments weigh favorably in the balance
I don’t think anything can possibly balance the massive, irreparable destruction that’s been done to this planet, but I guess that’s just me.
These stupid boomers still think they’re going to Mars…
I think deep down they know they’re gonna die. They don’t care about the future either way.
You should get out more. Most of the world is beautiful. Look for the good and you will find it!
Not sure why you’re assuming the people smart enough to create these major inventions aren’t also smart enough to understand their generation as a whole helped barrel us towards a climate disaster
The weather is beautiful where I live. There’s plenty of room if you don’t mind having cows as neighbors.
Are you a troll or do you actually think your tiny little bubble is indicative of what the entire planet is going through?
I don’t know. I’m just grateful for my wonderful life! What are you thankful for?
Alright well whichever you are, your deflection and arguments are lackluster. I’m gonna stop responding.
We’ll have to reinvent food abundance after climate change, ground water depletion and soil erosion are finishing up with the current one.
A great business opportunity, go for it!
If you are looking at the possibility of global food and water shortages as a business opportunity well then you might be part of the problem…
The problem is also the solution! Many great people will work very hard to solve the problem, you needn’t fret about it. Just keep your door dash app up to date.
That is the opposite of a business opportunity. That is a generation to multi generation project to rebuild and redesign our relationship with food. Some random startup is not fixing that.
Food abundance came as a result of the industrial revolution, which started waaay before our parents were born.
Supermarkets haven’t been around that long. The wide variety we satisfy our picky apppetites with is miraculous!
You think supermarkets were invented by boomers?
Prior to 1960 the concept was uncommon.
You admit, then, that food prices are made up to gouge us and have nothing to do with actual scarcity?
All product pricing is a complicated result of the economy. Thankfully scarcity is not a significant factor.
If scarcity is not the only factor, the prices are made up and we are being stolen from.
Food abundance? Have you seen food prices lately?
Have you gone hungry lately, or are you struggling to shed a few kilos like most of us?
Borlaug, Kilby and Noyce were all greatest generation. I don’t think they were parenting lemmy users.
True but employee #849004 at Intel keeps their system producing for us.
Holy shit, the audacity…
I don’t disagree but I’m going to let these people yell at you because they scare me. I can’t take anymore downvotes.
I cry every time…
