Why would one want to do this leap of faith if one can be happy without it? I’d rather have the relationship be based on regularly renewed interest than a leap. I don’t want someone to stay with me because of a past social success certificate. People change, you can’t predict if you’ll have the same feelings in 3 years. If it is still there great, if it’s not, I’d rather not make things administratively complicated on top of the rest.
It’s absolutely guaranteed you won’t have the same feelings. People change and the new relationship dopamine wears off after a few years.
However, building a life together is a special thing in its own right and that takes commitment to stay together and work on the relationship when times get tough.
I think that OP is talking about the commitment of marriage more-so than the actual document making it official with the government. I like the comic as a sweet notion of finding love when you weren’t looking for it. But a relationship without commitment and without the security that your partner would allow you to grow and change as a person and still stay committed would be hard to stay in realistically.
Why would one want to do this leap of faith if one can be happy without it? I’d rather have the relationship be based on regularly renewed interest than a leap. I don’t want someone to stay with me because of a past social success certificate. People change, you can’t predict if you’ll have the same feelings in 3 years. If it is still there great, if it’s not, I’d rather not make things administratively complicated on top of the rest.
I would say that even the easiest relationships are work and it’s not healthy to always have your eye on the door but what do I know?
It’s absolutely guaranteed you won’t have the same feelings. People change and the new relationship dopamine wears off after a few years.
However, building a life together is a special thing in its own right and that takes commitment to stay together and work on the relationship when times get tough.
I think that OP is talking about the commitment of marriage more-so than the actual document making it official with the government. I like the comic as a sweet notion of finding love when you weren’t looking for it. But a relationship without commitment and without the security that your partner would allow you to grow and change as a person and still stay committed would be hard to stay in realistically.
That’s one way to look at love, but I don’t look at it like that.