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  • TokenBoomer@lemmy.worldOP
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    1 year ago

    No, not a tangent. I think cis people need to hear your story and others. Because it doesn’t get discussed, people have misconceptions about who you are and what is involved. Many still think it’s a choice. That needs to be demystified. Discussion is the only way that happens. I can’t pretend to know the struggle, but I try to understand.

    • thefartographer@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      Many still think it’s a choice. That needs to be demystified.

      To me, this sentiment is such a big part of the problem. The abuse, the homelessness, the insecurity: those are all symptoms of the problem, but needing justify any of gestures wildly everywhere this as not being a choice is such a big part of the problem.

      Why can’t it be a choice? I’m not gay and I know I’m not because I’ve chosen to kiss guys to find out. I don’t always feel comfortable in my skin and sometimes feel more powerful when I’m wearing makeup or am dressed like a 1980s bully. But what if I just wanted to dress as a woman or be referred to as “her” for a week or if my wife wanted to grow a beard? The fact that anyone feels the need to justify these “odd” behaviors as part of biology or whatever further detracts from the correct response to someone having had a sex change or any other personal choice: “cool, it’s none of my business, but I’m glad you felt comfortable sharing that with me.”

      I realize that society is so far from ready for this view that my argument probably comes off a reductive, but I’m so tired of seeing wonderful people or even okay-ish people suffering from a population trying to wipe them from existence. I no longer feel the need to justify anything to these assholes and the only explanation they should ever hear again is, “because. Now kindly fuck off.”

      • kool_newt@lemm.ee
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        1 year ago

        Agree, it doesn’t matter if one is “born this way”. People should be able to do or wear whatever they want, represent themselves as whatever they want, so long as they are not harming others.

        And no, offending conservative sensibilities is not harm.