• Passerby6497@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    BDSM != sex, even if the two are heavily connected in a lot of people’s minds. I’ve played with both tops and bottoms that were ace/het/LGBT, and there was not anything sexual there. Hell, one of my fave experiences was bottoming for a lesbian top who enjoyed beating on dudes.

    BDSM is not inherently sexual, even if there can be a lot of sexuality involved.

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      7 months ago

      am lesbian who enjoys beating on dudes (impact play w/ anyone tbh)

      shoutout to kinky guys who bottom for domme lezzies but still respect their sexuality :]

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        7 months ago

        10000%

        I love getting beat by confident women (presenting people), and never expect anything more than that. Being somewhat demi helps a lot with that aspect, but it’s just basic respect for an ephemeral play partner in my mind.

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        7 months ago

        If you are amenable to getting smacked around a bit, boxing might be your holy grail.

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          7 months ago

          I’ve honestly considered it. That or wrestling. I need to work on getting generally back in shape first however.

          Don’t get depressed, kids. Turns out not moving for weeks makes all your muscles say “adios bitch”