I agree, but it’s frustrating to try to change perspective and make some changes while also seeing no results.
I’m in the college age group so I think it’s still somewhat realistic to make friends just for the sake of friends. I know people are busy with classes or work as so am I, but we can’t be THAT busy ALL the time. I probably exaggerated being ghosted but it’s happened so much that it’s infuriating. I know there are times where you just don’t feel like hanging out anymore on a particular day but at least give a raincheck if plans were made.
Maybe it’s also the few friends I have left or it’s the age group, but it’s tiring to just hear “nah hop on discord”. Like at this point I only have online friends left because we only socialize through online and playing video games while we could literally be going out doing something on the weekend. Had a conversation with a couple of them about it and they just see no reason to hangout irl. Maybe in person socializing isn’t important or valued.
I’ve definitely been on both sides of the ghosting thing, its hard to figure out why that becomes the easy choice. Maybe its just that people are hard and staying home alone is easy? Or maybe ghosting the person allows you to avoid any negative emotional consequences in the short term? I suppose you could try to reassure the person you aren’t upset with them.
For me I’ve noticed too that when I want to be left alone is when people won’t leave me be, and when I’m trying to find someone to do something with there is no one, so maybe it has something to do with expectation.
I agree, but it’s frustrating to try to change perspective and make some changes while also seeing no results.
I’m in the college age group so I think it’s still somewhat realistic to make friends just for the sake of friends. I know people are busy with classes or work as so am I, but we can’t be THAT busy ALL the time. I probably exaggerated being ghosted but it’s happened so much that it’s infuriating. I know there are times where you just don’t feel like hanging out anymore on a particular day but at least give a raincheck if plans were made.
Maybe it’s also the few friends I have left or it’s the age group, but it’s tiring to just hear “nah hop on discord”. Like at this point I only have online friends left because we only socialize through online and playing video games while we could literally be going out doing something on the weekend. Had a conversation with a couple of them about it and they just see no reason to hangout irl. Maybe in person socializing isn’t important or valued.
I’ve definitely been on both sides of the ghosting thing, its hard to figure out why that becomes the easy choice. Maybe its just that people are hard and staying home alone is easy? Or maybe ghosting the person allows you to avoid any negative emotional consequences in the short term? I suppose you could try to reassure the person you aren’t upset with them.
For me I’ve noticed too that when I want to be left alone is when people won’t leave me be, and when I’m trying to find someone to do something with there is no one, so maybe it has something to do with expectation.