We’ve all faced aome toxic traits in partners in some relationship. They’re supposed to be warning signs but its easy to misinterpret them, what’s yours?

Could be anything from possessiveness or jealousy to argumentativeness or bossiness.

  • SnokenKeekaGuard@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
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    1 year ago

    Oh there’s smth toxic here, but I don’t think it’s the lying. And I think you know that. Also, do you enjoy the lying?? Doesn’t sound like.

    Not to make quick assumptions, but if your partner is influencing your life so negatively on such a regular basis, perhaps the relationship isn’t a great idea.

    The fragmented feeling I understand, I think most people have a different personality for different groups. Good luck with therapy tho, hope you’re doing well.

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      1 year ago

      I hate the lying. I don’t lie in the rest of my life under other circumstances. I avoid it as much as possible, but if it’ll save me from being yelled at I’ll lie all I need to.

      The relationship is absolutely not a great idea, but unfortunately for financial reasons I can’t make any changes. I dream of the life I’ll have when I’m free, and how I’ll pursue what I want instead of just working two jobs to stay afloat, while he has routine in my face temper tantrums about stupid shit; tonight it was a piece of spoiled fruit

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        1 year ago

        I’m so sorry. Please protect yourself in every way you can, let your family and friends know you need help. You’ve got atleast one stranger rooting for you here❤️. Good Luck.

        Its a shame the positions financial stressors can put us in.

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          1 year ago

          Thank you. The last several weeks have been pretty awful, I keep trying to reset things towards a good path but every week it’s some petty crap. I’m really weary. I appreciate your kindness.