Original post here: https://hexbear.net/post/3856299?scrollToComments=false

I think we have a general path forward based on community feedback. “We see you, we hear you!”

I went ahead and unpinned the old post. I’m pinning this one for now and will edit this post when I wake up from eepy time. I had a very mid week and have no particular alarm set so be on look out. Love y’all and I’m amped for my first announcement post since coming back. :)

  • replaceable [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    Some users think posting is praxis and that hexbear should be the headquarters of the revolutionary vanguard.

    no one is thinking that, no one is forcing you to make effortposts, if you want to just call someone dumb you have c/gossip for that, what we are merely doing is forbidding low-effort dunking on private people, which we think is toxic and boring

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        Especially when you are not being forced to be the mod of a comm and can simply not engage with or even see the content VIA THE INTENTIONAL DESIGN OF THE SITE.

        Feels like we just had a struggle session over somebody getting annoyed that when they jumped in the pool, they got wet.

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      Fuck off you dork. I’m pretty obviously being hyperbolic to underline a point in that sentence.
      You’re still being a dismissive shitheel who fails to engage with the users who have put forth well-reasoned arguments for why dunking is not toxic. You continuing to repeat “it’s toxic” like some fucked up parrot does not make it so.
      If it’s boring, maybe don’t be a mod of the comm you massive dipshit. Just block it, it’s actually really easy. There’s tons of comms I don’t interact with, because I don’t find them interesting. You are a fantastic example of the attitude I’m talking about.

      Now I’m gonna become the parrot and repeat myself, but it’s pretty fucking telling that all the shitheels who cry about “toxicity in the dunk tank” have been massive assholes throughout this entire thing. If this was about toxicity, one would think you of all people would be less of a turd when you’re interacting with other people, even people who dares to gasp disagree with you. Do some fucking self-crit you bug

      edit: “we think” is obviously not everybody. Stop hiding behind a general vague group.

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        I did not engage with those arguments because i did not find them convincing, all they boil down to is that its cathartic and “fun”, but i fail to see why the targets must be other common people for it to be cathartic and “fun”

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          If I go to work and my coworker is being a bigoted asshole conspiracy weirdo I am gonna vent about it when I get home to my partner.
          I don’t care how much of a “common man” he is.

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            NOOO VENTING TO YOUR PARTNER ISN’T PRODUCTIVE YOU HAVE TO PRODUCE VALUE ALL THE TIME I AM A SOCIALIST AND YOU ARE WHITE AND CIS AND HET AND CHAUVINIST AND TOXIC

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          I think it’s clear that plenty of people here, evidently at least a plurality, find these posts to be cathartic and “fun”, so why should you and a handful of people disagreeing have any impact on why people shouldn’t get to have catharsis and fun?

          Essentially, why are you right other than you think you are?

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          The “targets” don’t even know we’re talking about them. In the off chance that someone sees a post on the comm and decides to go dunk on some fascist, I’d say it’s deserved, we should not take any actions to protect fascists from having their feelings hurt.

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                  naw listen, when someone whose entire online life is a tsunami of toxicity tells you that you’re sucking shit i really do think it’s wisest to at least consider the possibility that you may not have the clearest view of your own actions

                  let me rephrase. i don’t want to say you are toxic. but you are definitely being toxic. if you don’t want to claim that (i think you should) then you are at very least being…i guess deeply disrespectful? it’s unpleasant, is what i am trying to get at. there should not be this level of hostility between the people running the show and the rest of us. i don’t think it’s natural. i also don’t think it’s something we the userbase are responsible for kicking off (at least in this instance).

                  shrug-outta-hecks js

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          Ah is this the fabled improved rhetoric? Or is this your idea of not being dismissive and toxic?
          “I didn’t engage with the arguments because I didn’t agree with them” amerikkka-clap
          Fuck off, seriously. Do some self crit.

          • “Oh I don’t like this thing, so therefore it’s not good.” Narc mindset.
          • You’re also changing your reasoning. Before it was that targeting non-powerful people “had no impact” lol. Now it’ that you feel sorry for some chud who will never see us laughing at them?
          • Also you’re presenting it as a “has to”. It doesn’t have to target “other common people”, which is a very loaded phrasing, but it can.
          • What happened to it being unhealthy? Or do you realise how stupid that sounds, so you excluded it. That doesn’t make sense though, since that would have required you engaged with the arguments.

          Why are you modding the dunk tank? Why take the job if you hate it?

          edit: If you can’t even be arsed to put in basic effort when having an argument, how can you expect this site to be one that fosters effortposts?

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            Time for tone policing. Take your strongly worded words in your replies to replaceable down by like 30 to 50 hogs.

            Some of the people that have Ms or As next to their names are gonna need having strong words of their own so I’d suggest not getting too tilted.

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              rat-salute-2
              Thanks for giving me a warning, I appreciate it. I got too heated and treated an annoying dork like a genocide-apologising lib. It was too much.

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          i fail to see why the targets must be other common people for it to be cathartic and “fun”

          You’ve read the posts though right? like objectively there are some pretty bad fucking people getting represented in that content

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      what we are merely doing is forbidding low-effort dunking on private people, which we think is toxic and boring

      Then block the comm and pretend it doesn’t exist. Why do you have to ruin other people’s fun?

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          How does removing the place where people go to do a thing, remove their ability to go to the place and do a thing? Are you 12? Children don’t learn how action and consequence are linked until age 13. It would eplain a lot of your behaviour if you were a tween

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              Then it’s not functionally the same thing, dipshit

              We’re now at the point in the argument where you are trying to say “it doesn’t even matter!” because all your other pathetic excuses have been hollowed out. The fact that you’re a mod is sad, the fact that you haven’t had the presence of mind to step down is fucking pathetic.
              I know a lot of you people can’t handle dissent and get irrationally angry when people disagree with you or like things you don’t enjoy, but grow up. YOU and YOUR ACTIONS are unhealthy for the site culture. YOUR BEHAVIOUR is toxic. YOU are the problem. Do some self-crit. Take a step back and ask yourself some questions about why you feel the way you feel about these things.

              If you don’t enjoy what the site is, then don’t participate in it. This is not your personal project, but somethig a lot of people build and shape together. The site culture is ever-changing and that is an organic process. Being a mad little pissbaby because people enjoy things you don’t, isn’t organic, it’s actually not even normal. The things YOU and YOUR clique is doing is killing the site. I know you’re deluding yourself into thinking if you just get rid of [group] then this site will finally become good. The site is fine, you’re the issue, the rot is inside you. You will never enjoy it, because you will always encounter people who disagree with you or dissent with your opinion or call you out for being a dipshit or enjoy things you don’t enjoy. Even things you find troubesome in some way.
              In the end this is just a niche leftist webforum, the worst case is permanent stalin-gun-1logout but I’d be sad to see this community go. Especially if it’s killed because of some dork like you.

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                Im not saying it doesnt matter, you accuse the mod team of taking away your “fun”, so im pointing out you can still have “fun”, was dunking on nobodies your only source of fun?

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                  jfc I am becoming a broken record. Is this your idea of durable rhetoric? Is this your idea of non-toxicity? You are still doing basic debatebrodismissiveness as well as throwing out sad attempts at turning this into a personal mental health issue. Childish. Log out, never log on again until you’ve learned to handle people disagreeing with you.
                  I haven’t actually “accused the mod team of taking away my fun” great reading ability! If you’re gonna try to go down that path, actually engage with the specific things I am saying, instead of what you’d like me to be saying.

                  edit: And we are now at the point in the argument where you try to move the discussion to something else, because you’ve exhausted the current one. This is why you are trying to make it about me. Loser.

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                it is functionally the same thing, you can still “dunk” on people, they just have to be public figures, that does not in any way diminish the “fun” in it does it?

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                  Then it’s not functionally the same thing, dipshit.

                  that does not in any way diminish the “fun” in it does it?

                  Jesus christ you are an insufferable debatebro. Had any normal user done what you did, they’d been banned. Despite you being a condescending smuglord and me therefore treating you like one, it’s still probably only me who’s gonna catch flak once the rest of your clique wakes up and you can cry to them about it. Eat shit.

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                    yes, according to you guys the purpose of dunking is for it to be fun and cathartic, it still is if the dunking is on public figures , therefore it is functionally the same