• noodlejetski@lemm.ee
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    17 hours ago

    you really can’t see how using sexuality to mock someone you hate is homophobic?

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        15 hours ago

        Yeah, it is. It reinforces the idea that there is something wrong with a gay homophobe being gay, rather than the problem being that they are a homophobe.

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        15 hours ago

        it’s perpetuating the view that calling someone “gay” is somehow an insult.

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      15 hours ago

      you really can’t see how using sexuality to mock someone you hate is homophobic?

      It’s not using sexuality to mock someone. It’s using hypocrisy to mock someone.

      You know what’s the same thing? When gay men call each other fags or lesbians dykes. It’s taking what was intended as derogatory and flipping it around to celebrate it. It’s the ideal response to bullying assholes of any kind.

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        15 hours ago

        It’s not using sexuality to mock someone. It’s using hypocrisy to mock someone.

        I guess it would make it okay to call a black right-winger an N-word and talk about how he can’t swim and only eats chicken and watermelon, then?

        When gay men call each other fags or lesbians dykes

        and I’m sure you know that not everyone is comfortable doing that because of their lived experiences. it’s awesome that homophobic jokes don’t affect you, but not everyone can distance themselves from them.

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          14 hours ago

          I guess it would make it okay to call a black right-winger an N-word and talk about how he can’t swim and only eats chicken and watermelon, then?

          If you are black, yes, it would be ok. And many black people do. It’s the exact same defense mechanism.

          and I’m sure you know that not everyone is comfortable doing that because of their lived experiences.

          Then let them not be comfortable with it and let me and my people alone. Do not try to police my language just because perceive someone somewhere to have experienced some mild discomfort… and why? WHY DO I SAY THIS?

          Because honey, they need to arm themselves against that discomfort. You need to have a shield and that shield is OWNING the words. If you let people who use derogatory words own them you have lost power.