For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.

They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.

    • yokonzo@lemmy.world
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      You’re arguing that the context is subjective to the word provided yes? Yet your example is also subjective, clearly when your friends call you bitch it’s not meant as an insult. I can’t think of a single instance in which using dude as an insult is going to get someone offended on purpose, where bitch definitely can be used purposefully.

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        Dude can be used as an insult when used to refer to someone who specifically said they don’t want to be called dude. I don’t know why this is so hard for you. If people don’t want to be called something, don’t call them that. Definitely don’t tell them it’s their fault if they’re offended and they need to get over it.

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          Yeah that’s not how language works, that’s how pestering works, just because you don’t like to be called Apple and I call you an apple doesn’t mean that apple is now magically an insult word.

          I don’t know why this is so hard for you

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              Nah, an insult would be me telling you “okay boomer” then blocking you to end this dumb back and forth

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                Is it really that hard to not call someone dude if they asked you not to call them dude? Just accept they don’t like it and continuing at that point is rude at best.

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                    I know this must be difficult to understand, but more than one person can hold an opinion like “just don’t call someone something they’ve asked you not to call them”

                    I have no clue who the other person is, and the only “alt” I have is the same name on a different instance.

                    Just… Unless your goal is to intentionally disrespect someone, if they tell you they don’t like being called something, don’t call them that, it really isn’t hard. And if your goal is to be disrespectful… Maybe consider hanging around people you can respect instead.