I try to be mindful of my Lemmy image/persona since I try to be supportive and educational here. I don’t have a problem with sharing my personal beliefs, but I try to keep it constructive and not too judgemental.

I’ve spent a lot of time cultivating the community where I spend most of my time posting content to, and I like all the comments people share on a daily basis because it’s a positivity oriented community.

Between things in real life and fighting feelings of burn out here, it’s been a bit tougher to stay motivated. One thing I’ve been noticing more lately, and I’m not sure how to deal with it, and I’m curious how you all deal with it.

If you have regular commenters that you like in your community, but you see them being kinda shitty in other communities, does that affect you?

I know there are stressful things going on just about everywhere, but it’s tough when I see people I look to for positivity in return for my work having bad takes or saying things that make me feel less happy about them.

The broadest recent example is probably the Luigi/United Healthcare assassination. Without getting into a whole thing, I don’t support it the way many have expressed here, but I can empathize with the reasoning behind why Luigi has broad support. But I see people I like saying what I feel are pretty hateful things, and I’m having a hard time separating what they show me of themselves in our positive space with what I’m seeing of them in the general Lemmyverse.

I don’t know if I should just ignore it, but I don’t feel there Is really any ideal way to discuss too much as I don’t want to alienate people from my content. I don’t use any alta as that just seems like too much work, but now I kind of want to avoid people a little bit.

Just curious if any of you go through anything similar and to see how you deal with it.

  • Emotional_Series7814@kbin.melroy.org
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    4 days ago

    I just do not see it in the first place because I stay out of these communities. I have no interest in stressing myself out in a zone I believe is

    • highly unlikely to lead to new understanding of a perspective I don’t share
    • highly likely to just confirm my own beliefs
    • likely to result in an online fight no matter how gently I express myself
    • highly likely to stress me out and make me angry as I see people interacting rudely with each other, whether justified or not
    • unlikely but possible to result in a doxxing
    • unlikely but possible to result in gaining a personal online stalker having something nasty to say or a downvote to give for every post I make—while downvotes do not really matter outside of certain niche situations (like trying to run a new community with little interaction and everything gets a few downvotes from your couple stalkers; now it looks like crap content and a crap community when it’s not. I say this as someone lucky enough to escape it but who saw someone else’s new community consistently get about 3 upvotes and 3 downvotes for relevant, informational content), having someone that invested in adding some kind of negative feedback to your life is creepy and scary, especially since I have been lucky enough to have never had someone invested in trying to add negativity to my life before